Does anyone hold a door anymore?? Are parents even teaching simple manners anymore?

Question

Do you think the fact that more families have both parents working have anything to do with this?

Answer 1

I agree that hardly anyone holds doors or says thank you anymore. My husband and I hold doors open for people and will say thank you to those who do it for us. What pisses me off is when I hold a door open for someone and they don't even say thanks, like its my job to do this for them. A little common curtsy could go far.

Answer 2

As a Grandparent I can tell you I am very proud of the way my Grandchildren have been taught manners and proper etiquette. I taught my grandson to always be kind and considerate about opening doors, especially for older folks (problem was he'd stand there a long time allowing everyone to enter while he held the door). The other day I had all 5 of them out to eat and a lady stopped to tell me what a wonderful kid he was..He seen she had her hands full and actually offered to carry her drinks back to her and her husbands table!! (He's 10 by the way). People just don't give enough time to teaching them how to be mannerly.

Answer 3

I'm 16 and I haven't seen an adult hold the door for anyone in several years, but whenever I go out with some friends, if there's guys in the group they hold doors for the girls. I haven't ever really been "taught" proper manners, just learn by example. Me and my group of friends are very courteous and polite, but a majority of children and teens aren't. It's so sad that that's the stereotype now, you can just see some people in movie theaters or restaurants cringe when they see us walk in because they think we'll be loud and rude.

Answer 4

It has everything to do with everything. People will say it isn't so, but it is. That said, not every set of working parents ignore their parental duties. Manners are inherited and they are taught.

It's terrible the rudeness and intolerance etc. and it's not just kids, it's the adults too...so as they say, the apple rarely falls far from the tree.

Oh and Jessica? That's when you stick out your foot and say oops! :~)

People used to think I was mean because I wouldn't let my kids associate with certain kids in the neighbourhood...well now my daughter is in high school and the kids I didn't let her hang with all smoke, do drugs, lost their virginity in grade 8 and think they are hot stuff now in highschool...truth is they look very stupid, and my daughter who was the one left out in the past, is the one who shines now, with good friends at last, a good attitude for school (90s this first term!) and has flourished and is finally reaping the benefits of a proper upbringing. Sometimes people try to trip you up in life...it's thier way of justifying not doing a good job themselves and you can just hear the same words uttered from the parents uttered by the children...so no thanks.

I put my kids into scouts and sports and music so they had focus and learned skills that would benefit themselves personally and society at large, and it was well worth the outcome to do so.

Answer 5

Last Tuesday, my daughter came home from school with an certificate of recoginization for respect signed by her principal. She is 6 years old in first grade. Her name was submitted (along with 122 other students from different schools within the school district) to the local newspapers/tv stations. It's a program called Character Counts. Her teacher wrote a beautiful letter about how well mannered she is and how she helps out other people. Needless to say, me and my husband are on cloud nine because of this.

So, yes, I teach my children manners. And I'm glad I got to share this story with alot of strangers :)

Answer 6

I am 14 and my parents teach me proper manners (such as holding the door) if I dont, its "Michelle, hold the door, its polite" Though, yeah many parents dont teach proper manners anymore. SO, I thank mom and dad for teaching me my manners (and continuing to reinforce them)

Answer 7

I always hold a door open for women. I often get looks of shock, they don't expect it anymore. Most of the time they do say thank you. I don't believe most parents are teaching manners anymore.
For instance: Please, Thank you, May I, Taking off your hat indoors etc. It all starts in the home!

Answer 8

My dad left when I was seven & I'm still courteous and hold doors, say thank you, and simply have manners in general. I don't think it has to do with the parent situation necessarily.

Answer 9

I was beginning to think no but last night I went on a date and well he held the door open for me! To all the guys out there reading these and thinking there to macho for that - well girls notice and remember!

Answer 10

Well I am a stay at home Mom and I will kick my sons butt if he don't open a door for anyone to go before him but I also teach my daughter to do it for her elders as well.