I was just wondering if you would ever go out with a girl like me.
I'm 5'3 and 17 years old. I have an hour glass figure with a tiny bit of baggage. I have Hazle eyes, brown hair thats to my sholders and layered. I like to have fun, people say that I am very considerate, I'm what you would call a hopless romantic and I love to go to rock concerts. I'm not High Matinence, I work for what i get, and I have a straight white smile. Well I think that's enough to put out into the open. So please (guys) let me know if you would ever go out with some one like me. I haven't had a boyfriend since 7th grade and I 'm a junior now so I need to know what's wrong with me. I hope I didn't bore you too much with this. :)
2006-12-03 09:53:26 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No worries. Wait until college. I'm sure you'll meet someone who will appreciate you then.
2006-12-03 09:56:00 · answer #1 · answered by mr_mumbles_nyc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I'm a 42 year old married guy, perhaps not who you thought would respond to this, but it amazes me how little a lot of these insecurities from the teenage years change. Over time, you will be fine. When I was 17, I don't think I had ever even had a girlfriend at that point. I was very shy, only somewhat athletic, somewhat musical and that was a different time...when guys were "expected to" make the first move. This was always tough for a shy guy like me.
What activities are you involved in? Do you go to church? If so, are you active in the youth group? Are you overcome with self-doubt? If you are not overly confident, talk to a pastor about how you can bolster this confidence. It's been said that girls are attracted to confident guys, well, the same can be said of guys, so don't underestimate this. If this is an issue for you, address it. Easier said than done, I know, but most people while they were teenagers felt many of the insecurities you are feeling.
Finally, don't get impatient! There have been a whole lot more hearts broken by getting involved with the wrong guy than by failing to get involved at all. Don't lower your standards. Concentrate on your studies and your extra curricular activities. Once boys see you being "good" at something..(no! not that!) they will be attracted to that.
2006-12-03 18:02:09 · answer #2 · answered by lmnop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, for crying out loud, Girls! Guys in high school, the nice guys, are afraid of you. They are scared to death of rejection. They are even afraid they won't be sexually sophisticated or skilled enough for you. These young guys are even afraid that you won't like their penis if things ever went that far! It's an insecure age for these guys. You have to help them out.
Maybe you've only shown an interest in MTV media perfect guys and haven't done anything to let the average nice guy know that you are interested and available; not up for grabs, just open to offers.
You sound decent enough; no supermodel, but not the elephant man's hidden sister, either. Self esteem and confidence are the magic; put them to work for you. Realizing that most of the nice guys in HS are clueless and afraid and need some reassurance and guidance is the price of admission to the dating carnival.
And remember, some guys won't respond to you the way you want, because they aren't ready for dating or they are still afraid that they will be a disappointment to you. And some just aren't interested in you. Get in the game and take some shots.
2006-12-03 18:04:48 · answer #3 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I am 38 and married and happy with my wife.
But anyway for real advice I can give that is tailored for you. For starters there is nothing wrong with you! You seem a beautiful person and just getting someone to call a boyfriend is not the be all in life. One day you will have a marriage mate that is what you should look towards in the future.
You are 17 years old you hardly lived life just put yourself forward and be natural to who you are and the right guy will find you. Do not go for the "sexual-relationship-a-must" guys they never last.
You are valueable and your Mr Right will notice that, he will want YOU because of YOU not because it is the peer pressured so called thing to do. You are young and your potential has yet to be uncovered. You will find as you get slightly older boyfriend finding becomes even easier.
2006-12-03 18:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not go out with ya because im 41 but if I was a 17 year older again no problem at that time I was a lead singer in a rock and roll band had been for 4 years at that time .sounds to me their is something else wrong gotta look into you and find out whats the problem
2006-12-03 17:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by Michael D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a fine young woman. Don;t feel less so because you don't have a boyfriend. Guys at your age don't know what they want in a relationship. Give it some time,someone will come along who will think they just can't live without you. Good Luck!
2006-12-03 17:59:06 · answer #6 · answered by mopjky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sounds like there's anything wrong with you, per se. Just because you haven't had a boyfriend doesn't mean that the problem is on your end. Just keep hanging out and having fun, the guys will come to you.
2006-12-03 17:56:34 · answer #7 · answered by rockingharder 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
will you marry me?
haha anyways seriously you basically just described a girl that i dont have the courage to ask out. Your awesome and people will love you. Your only 17, so you got plenty of life full of romance and love left. You just gotta be patient.
2006-12-03 18:00:33 · answer #8 · answered by Scotty P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry! Did you know Julia Roberts never went out on a date in high school? Your time will come, and your handsome prince will appear!
2006-12-03 17:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would love to go out with you, you seem to have a great personality,attractive, and nice if I had the chance I would go out with you, nothing is wrong with you, just the guys around you are such jackasses to see your beauty the way I do. :) Much love..:)
2006-12-03 17:58:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋