Met a girl who trained me at an old job of mine. Ever since, we'd have deep convos where she'd usually call me, and confide in me about a lot for hours on end. She also would laugh at things I didn't mean to be funny, and was apologetic alot when she didn't need to be. She would also call me up during a holiday and also spent 5 hours on the phone with me the other night, apologizing saying how she had been busy because of her job.
She does have a boyfriend though, that's why I'm not pushing it. They been together for 4 years, but she'll tell me that it's not the greatest, and when she goes over there she makes it sound like its a night job rather than spending time with him. She also says to me that she's faithful.
What is it that's going on......exactly? Is there more to it than can be assumed already?
BTW, here relationship is on the outs and she's telling me she's getting rid of him soon. I asked her to my work's x-m
2006-12-03 09:41:56 · 13 answers · asked by heymanchase 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's a little hard to tell, she might really like you or she may be looking for some on the side. If she dumps the boyfriend then i'd say go for it, not before though.
2006-12-03 09:44:46 · answer #1 · answered by Diet_smartie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation. The first thing you need to ask yourself is: Do I know what i'm getting into and will I like the result/consequences? She says that her b/f whom she's been with for 4 years is faithful so why would she want to stray? No offense to you but I'd think that after 4 years with a seemingly good guy, you'd be looking to settle down and start a future but I guess that's just me. Why though would you run the risk of interfering in a relationship with a woman who's obviously unsure about what she really wants. She's giving you the impression that her man is unworthy but how do you know that this is true, have you ever seen them together as a couple? Do you know him personally, so why would you want to judge him without even knowing him for who he really is?
I applaud you for not "pushing it" and would advice you really think this through before you get involved with someone you hardly know. Who's to say that if you two get involved she wouldn't run off and leave you after the love/lust between you two has gone cold. If you are looking for a long term relationship, I don't know that you should be looking in her direction because based on your description of her, I must admit she appears sly and sneaky so be careful.
On the flip side however, I may be wrong but u should still think this thing through carefully and weigh out your options because If you guys do get involved and she breaks your heart, you're not going to like the feeling.
You may not want to hear this but I suggest that you encourage her to work it out with her man. Maybe you could try to find out what it is exactly about him that's turned her off because there's every possibility she might be telling him one thing and then telling you something completely different. The choice is yours to make but remember that when it comes to love, you need to use your head because when you follow only your heart, you end up with pain that sometimes lasts forever and I don't think you want that so think this through thoroughly.
2006-12-03 10:12:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tricky while she still has a boyfriend... You want to avoid becoming 'the other man', but I totally understand that you want to jump on this opportunity. It sounds like she's into you, so I'd say that you should just wait things out. If she truly is dumping her boyfriend soon, then you'll get your chance.
2006-12-03 09:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by rockingharder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yo man, Your a out let for her broad om. When see is not talking or banging her boyfriend. She calls you. Women do this all the time. Your in the friend zone dud. What a wast.
2006-12-03 09:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by omegarussell42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She kind of sounds like me in a way.
She's testing the waters with you because she wants to know for sure that you want her when she leaves her boyfriend. She doesn't want to be alone but she has taken a liking to you so it's not like she's completely using you. You have something she wants that her boyfriend doesn't have.
2006-12-03 09:44:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um she either just needs a friend to talk to, or she likes you a lot. If she is getting rid of her bf that means she either really hates him or she likes you a lot. In my opinion she likes you, but I'm not sure.
2006-12-03 09:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's lying to you and she jsut might soon use you if you give in.
the fact that she said she is faithful,..uhm..do you really think she is??
dnt believe her when she says she's gettin rid of him soon. hun,bein wit a guy,esp 2 a girl for 4 years,isn't sumthin u can jsut toss out the window!!
she might be playing with you..don't take her too seriously. gettin rid of him,..sYK3!!
boy move on,don't play with taken goods.. she doesn't seem to be worth you. at least to me. cuz its like she's leading you on.
2006-12-03 09:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by gabi c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is interested in you, but can't be with you until she decides that her current relationship is over. GOOD LUCK and if you want to be with her, try to stick it out for a little while.
2006-12-03 09:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by meow699423 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants to get out and wants a safety net (you) also sounds like she has low self confidence.
Proceed with caution!
2006-12-03 09:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by Donna W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is unhappy in her relationship. She deff likes you and would like to have soemthing with you, but she does not want you to be the reason she leaves her bf.
If she cheats on him with you she will feel guilty about it and go back to her bf. Do not do anything untill she is single, bc she will regreat it and you might also.
2006-12-03 09:49:53 · answer #10 · answered by <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋