I will be travelling alone for Xmas this year as my Fiancee' is in Europe on her work placement. I am expected to be at my parents' place this Xmas (they are hosting Xmas and will have many relatives there). I really want to get a Motel room as they will already have relatives staying there (babies and young kids). I mentioned this to my Mom (I stupidly thought it would relieve her of some of the holiday prep stress) and she was somewhat offended, saying that stuffing everyone into one place was "the fun of Christmas" and that the other relatives would be offended by this. I was told that it was only a few days out of the year, and that I wasn't being consdierate if I couldn't put myself out for a few days. Never does the thought of me actually having a good "family" holiday for once ever come up. It's all about these stupid and tired traditions that everyone must pretend to like every year. So basically I'm wondering if it is a bad idea to get a local Motel room? Any other ideas?
2006-12-03 09:41:04 · 20 answers · asked by LanceMiller77 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Not at all. We stay in a hotel when we travel for the holidays. We can sleep in if we like. You also have the same privacy you would have if you stayed at home. Also, depending on the hotel you have great amenities that you can enjoy at the hotel.
I love homestead hotel suites, they are so much like home. You can cook your own meals in the small kitchenette, they are cheap to stay at and it's a home away from home.
Happy Holidays
2006-12-03 09:45:02 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy Shut Your Mouth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, get the MOTEL ROOM...
Remember, "fish and visitors stink after three days"
Your family should be happy that you are making there for Christams in the first place...
See the guilt trip you are getting already???
Sounds like my mom...
I just went up to Toronto to visit my daughter, and called my mom from a Hotel, and she was asking me to stay at her place, and I told her I was quite happy at the Hotel...
"well, you can stay here", bla,bla...
I know I can, and I know you can as well...
But, the smartest thing you can do, is get the Motel, seriously...
You can still spend lots of time at the home, etc...
But, this way you are in control, if there happens to be a family arguement arise... or anything...
This control is what parents don't like to give up...
Mom is "feeding" you the old guilt trip as far as I can see...
And if you think about it...
This is probably not the first time, or occassion you have been subjected to the good ol' GUILT TRIP... am I right...???
I know I am...
When they refuse to see your point of view, and or reluctantly go along with it... IT'S a GUILT TRIP...
There is more going on then the fun of Christams here, and everyone staying in the same place...
IT'S CALLED CONTROL, AND GUILT...
Grow some BALLS...
And book your hotel, or motel room... over the net, or whatever...
And that way it is already "BOOKED" the next time you talk... (get it)
And say... "oh, don't worry mom, I'll still be spending lots of time there, but I'd like to have some privacy" or something to that effect... or along those lines...
You're not even at the house yet, and an a guilt trip and "argument" is already breaking out...
LOL,LOL
Been there, done that... GOT THE T' SHIRT...lol
So All The BEST OF LUCK...
P.S,
You're not mommy and daddys little boy anymore...
REMEMBER:
You're a MAN...
2006-12-03 18:21:17 · answer #2 · answered by Q&A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last few years that we gathered at my parents house for Christmas, I stayed in a hotel. 4 of us kids, my parents, 2 nieces and 2 nephews, 2 spouses. It's a 4 bedroom house but being single, I didn't have "rank" for a room. I didn't want to sleep on the floor and figure out which bathroom to use in the morning. And after a 2 hour drive, I wanted to sleep in a bed! I stayed late and played games, did all the family stuff, and I got there early in the morning for all of the Christmas day festivities. My mom was a little put off at first, but why should it matter where I sleep, if I'm there for everything else? Now, it's a given and she makes a reservation for me. It isn't a "fun" part of Christmas to me, to be crammed in somewhere on the floor. I think I was the only one who got a decent nights sleep!
2006-12-03 18:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by msuzyq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I really understand your dilemna. Personally, I'm with you - it's actually considerate to make arrangements for a place to stay, as it eases overcrowding for the host and will take the stress out of the holidays from those arguments that inevitably errupt when everyone is thrown together in such close quarters.
However, many families seem to think that it's just "not the holidays" unless everyone is crammed in like sardines into the same place, sharing in the misery that the holidays become when everyone is too close for too long with too little sleep.
My husband and I always find that we're the ones in the living room - with the last to bed and the first to rise - as we have no children.
If you find a way to deal with it, please let me know!
2006-12-03 20:06:01 · answer #4 · answered by JenV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a bad idea. Personally, I would sometimes like it if people who visit us over the holidays would stay in a hotel instead of at our place. I think it's a lot less stressful for everyone this way.
2006-12-04 14:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU MUST STAY IN A MOTEL BECAUSE:
1. TO AVOID THE POSSIBILITY OF TEMPORARY MIGRAINS.
2. YOU HAVEN'T SLEPT WELL LATELY AND WHAT YOU REALLY NEED FROM SANTA IS SOME PEACE AND QUIET
3. YOU MIGHT HAVE CAUGHT A COLD, DYSENTARY, TB, MONONOISEITIS AND YOU DON'T WANT TO RISK THE KIDS HEALTH.
4. YOU WON A FREE MOTEL STAY, 3 DAYS, 4 DAYS OR A WEEK(WHATEVER0 FROM YAHOO ANSWERS THAT HAS TO BE USED BY THE END OF THE YEAR OR THEY WILL CHARGE YOU FOR IT.
THAT OUGTH TO GET YOU STARTED, IF YOU NEED MORE HELP EMAIL ME!!!
GOD BLESS
2006-12-03 17:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by thewindowman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just say I'm going to stay in the hotel, there will probably be plenty of people crammed together already to help achieve her illusion of what Christmas is all about.
They're your family, so it's not like they'll never speak to you again over this perceived slight.
2006-12-04 00:34:54 · answer #7 · answered by KdS 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you can have too much family at the holidays. Staying at a hotel is fine by me. I don't expect my family to put me up at holiday time.
2006-12-03 18:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by quatrapiller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are concerned for the comfort of others, tell your mom you will stay home, and sleep in the garage, or attic. That way she can't stay mad at you and there will be more room for everyone.
I Cr 13;8a
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2006-12-03 17:45:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick to your guns!!....you are not practicing poor etiquette, your mother is!!...trying to force or guilt some-one into doing something they don't want to do....very rude!!!!!.....when she keeps pushing the issue simply say "i will be more comfortable in a motel" and if she won't take no for an answer say "maybe i would cause less stress for everyone if i just stayed home this year"......
2006-12-04 07:13:36 · answer #10 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋