I'm getting married in 3 months?

Question

I'm getting married in 3 months and I would like to have all my friends there. but my soon to be husband dont want some of my friends there that knows my ex husband. but they are still my friends. but I would like to ask them but I dont want to get my soon to be husband mad. how do I get him to understand that they are still my friends. what should I do?

Answer 1

this is only the beginning with problems you will have with your future husband are you really sure you want to marry him?

Answer 2

If you were wanting your EX to be there then I could see him raising a stink, but you are not.
And tell me, is he going to forbid you to have anything to do with these friends once you're married? I would have a VERY serious conversation with him before I say that "I do". I'm not sure it's a good idea.

This is more about him than it is anything else. He's afraid of being compared to your first hubby. And truthfully, whether those friends show up or not, it's going to happen.

I am with a man who is always in the public eye; an entertainer. He had a relationship with another talented person in the public. How very difficult it's been when there are comments made to me about this past relationship. But there is no way I had a right to refuse him to associate with all the others he's known for so many years. And, I have proven to be the better woman.

Tell you fiance that this would mean a lot to you to invite them. If he refuses.....give this marriage some serious thought.

Answer 3

Are you going to keep doing this kind of thing once you're married? I mean what if you have a housewarming party and he doesn't want them there? You need to know that you're friends IF THEY'RE REAL FRIENDS, will understand and accept that your husband and other half has wishes. You need to do something now before it gets out of hand. Either drop him or your friends. You also need to wipe the footprints off your back.

Answer 4

Honey forget about the friends. Why are you marrying this man? So he is still uptight about your ex husband so does that mean you must erase your life prior to meeting him? This is a HUGE red flag dear and you really should think again and then again before you marry this controlling fellow.

Answer 5

He(your fiance) realized that you were married before which means you will have connections with people. He sounds a bit possessive. I don't see anything wrong with you asking your friends to the wedding. This could be the start of a very limited life for you. Things start off small. Don't ignore the warning signs.

Answer 6

Talk to him. Explain that just because your friends knows your ex-husband, does not mean that this marriage is in jeopardy. You wouldnt have agreed to marry your fiance if you were still having feeling for your ex-husband.

Answer 7

I would really question this marriage, simply because of the BIG RED FLAG! If your fiance is having a problem with inviting friends to your wedding ceremony, something that you want all the people you love to come to & give their blessing, then what else we he have to say something about. I am not saying don't marry him, I am saying sit down & talk with him & tell him your feelings!

Answer 8

There are billions of people in the world. There's even a guy out there identical to this man in every way except he's not so controlling that he thinks it's his business who your friends are!
Dump this loser and find the other guy.

Answer 9

If you have to worry about your future husband getting mad and he does not support you, you should not get married

Answer 10

I guess u just have to communicate the importance of these friends attending the wedding. Let him know that he should not feel threatened by your x and friends.