it was vary sad and i still miss him he was like my cousion I talk to him about every thing but just he got into a car crash and boom died i'm scared and helpless please! help
2006-12-03 08:40:45 · 21 answers · asked by Kk 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm sorry to hear that. Loss of a loved one is always the most painful feeling in the world. Love and remember the times you had with him.
Believe me when I say that I can relate to your pain, and the pain does dull itself after some time has passed. You will still hurt, but it will not haunt your every thought.
You seem young. You should see a counselor. Therapy is the best way for your to cope.
I wish you the best of luck.
You're in my thoughts.
Ashley.
2006-12-03 08:45:41 · answer #1 · answered by muertoalavida 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Have you tried talking to anyone? It doesn't necessarily need to be a professional, in fact, sometimes it's better if it's someone who knew the person too. That way you can share memories. Try concentrating on all the good times and remember that he probably wouldn't want you to feel depressed. He's in a much better place now and is no longer in pain. It will get easier in time, you'll never forget and even years down the road you'll still have times when you'll miss him a lot, but it will be easier.
2006-12-03 16:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by FlyChicc420 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry that you lost your best friend, it's very frightening when somebody you love just disappears so suddenly, and you didn't have the chance to let them know how much they mean to you....But when it's somebody so close to you, they know how much they mean to you, and how much you mean to them. don't be scared, don't be helpless, we are here for you, we've all been through similar situations, hon, and we know how much it hurts.
Just try and think of the positive things you had with your pal, and try and remember the good times... i know it's hard, but always remember your friend as how he was, and do something for him, like go back to some place that had a special meaning for you both, and remember the happy times. You've been blessed for knowing such a good guy, DO SOMETHING HE WOULD HAVE LIKED, SOMETHING THAT HE WOULD HAVE LIKED YOU TO DO. It's gonna make you feel better, and make him send you another special angel, from him.XXXX
2006-12-03 16:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by josie_cy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww, so sad, and so sorry for your loss...but your friend wouldn't want you to be going through life sad and unhappy...He would want you to be happy, and make new friends, and always remember that he is always with you...when you laugh, when you smile, and on all of those aniversaries you and only him shared...Take flowers to him this Christmas, and on his birthday...and pray to Jesus to forgive your friend for the things he might have done wrong, and to bless him for the things he did good...and then ask the Lord to give you strength to go on...and if your friend had family, call them and ask is there any thing you can do to help...time is a great healer sweetness, and you will find that in a while, you will be able to remember him without so much pain...and it is alright to laugh, your friend would have wanted that for you, I know...God Bless darling,...xxxx
2006-12-03 17:20:28 · answer #4 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awe i am so sorry to hear about your loss. when people die especially at a young age, and when it was not meant for them to, it will always be tragic. it is going to take months and years to grasp reality. he will never leave you in your heart. but what you have to keep in mind is that people die for a reason. we may not always know what that reason may be, but god does. so, my advice to you is just to keep talking to him. although you might think hes not listening, he is. everyone passes away sometime or another. this is just one of the amny milestones you are going to go through in your life. if you have a best friend, someone you can talk to, they will not replace him, and they will not be able to say some of the things that he would have said, but it will make you feel better. dont give up. the times when you feel totally and completely empty. know that you will always have 2 people in this world.. jesus and god. they will never leave your side and would never to anything to hurt you. he did not want your friend to die and to take him away from you, but it was his time. how old was he when he passed away? reguardless, i am sure it was awful. just keep in mind that you are not the only one mourning. so there is nothing wrong with missing the one you love after they pass away and ways you can cope with this emptyness is to maybe write. that is how i get all of my emotions out. if i did not write poems everyday and in my journal, i dont think i could have made it to today. another way is to take walks. go somewhere like in a field or some place like that and just pray. he will always be able to listen to you. just about one year ago i lost a cousin of mine because he committed suicide. i was not very close to him, but it still ripped me in two when i found out what had happened to him. ever since that day, i take every day as a blessing. let this possibly be a lesson. to make everyday the fullest. if today was not a good day, change what you did wrong and try to fix it tomorrow. i really hope that i made some kind of sense to you today and you atleast got something out of all of this. best of luck. again i am sorry about you and your friend. i will pray for you.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-03 17:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by Brittany 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's in a better place now HEAVEN. Try to get involved with other friends and people to take your mind off this. If that does not work visit his grave, and talk to him. Finally if none of these work maybe you can get some help from a doctor.
2006-12-03 16:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by roflcopterBRUTUS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a diary or a journal and write down everything you would talk to him about. when your ready send them to him by burning them in the fireplace. Fire can be very healing and I think of the smoke as the message being sent. I hope you feel better soon.
2006-12-03 16:47:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need a hug,,,,and a Support system and a net working of people that love you I just lost someone and it is very hard and if yhou beleive in God then that is a help, but still hurts we shall never forget the people we love as most of us Love very few people in our lives,,,,I have found helping others has helped me,,,can you find a need or a cause to keep busy,,,Good Luck .
2006-12-03 16:45:03 · answer #8 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry! You are STILL in shock and you can take your time as much as you like. If you want to get the best advice for recovering, see a counciller. They are wonderful.
Until then, mixing, socialising or interacting with as much people as possible REALLY does good for you. You must trust this and go with it.
Again, I'm sorry and my thoughts are with you.
2006-12-03 16:49:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
try to remember the good times take out some photos or something I'm very sorry for your loss.
2006-12-03 16:43:58 · answer #10 · answered by Grace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋