we've had problems, but there pretty much fixed. i love him, and could not bare to loose him as a friend. but, its pretty much all or nothing. i either go back out, or were done. i also couldnt STAND seeing him with any other girl. but on the other hand, i dont want to loose the "single life." i feel like once your going out with a guy, its almost like your social life is gone unless its with him. should i or not?
2006-12-03 08:40:38 · 18 answers · asked by Carrie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you sound like a dependant kinda girl. *not making fun, just observing*
you want to be single, but when your with someone you think the fun stops...
and that is not true! your social life shouldn't stop just because your dating someone! you need your own hobbys and likes. and if he's the type not to let you have a scocial life while your dating then...id say forget him.
your not property, you are your own person. and you should have interests that DO NOT involve him, or you could grow to resent the fact that the only person or thing you have is him.
you'll get bored, and problems will start up again.
i love my husband dearly, but if i didn't have friends and other interests, id go crazy!
he has his friends too. AND he has friends that are girls. so moving on to your next point about not being able to stand seeing him with other girls...what do you mean?
you don't like seeing him date other girls? that would be understandable if you are in love with him.
or do you mean you don't like seeing him talk or be friends with other girls?
if it's that..then i think you need to really think about what it is that makes you so upset about that.
cause if you love him, you should respect and trust him. is he worthy of your trust? if so...then YOU need to chill. you cannot stop him if he decides to stray, nor can you control him if he is faithful. that is ALL up to him! you just have to trust him (and he YOU). you can't say, Oh i trust you, and then go crazy every time he speaks to another woman. he will get SICK of that and end it. (wouldn't you?)
i trust my hubby, yes he has friends that are girls, he talks to them. i know them and i am friends w/ a few. but my husband comes home to ME! he respects me, and honors our vows. that is all i can ask for.
being suspicious only would frustrate him and show that i had no faith in him.
that again will cause problems.
being jealous about that is an indicator of issues about yourself hon, and it's something that you need to work out before you date anyone..or it will cause problems in ANY relationship your in.
2006-12-03 08:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure you know that only you can answer that. If you do, then you're right. Most of your social life will include him. If you're not ready for that, maybe you're just not ready for a commitment. If you don't and you love him, you are taking a chance that you will lose him. You have some serious thinking to do.
2006-12-03 16:44:09 · answer #2 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question to be asking. Making a decision like this and you being a girl amazes me. Most girls hook on like a parasite and won't let go and here you are confident enough to want him to back off a little. I admire you and vote let the sucker go. With your poise and confidence, you can string along every guy you want and the few that try to attach you against your will should be thrown back. Tell him what you told us. Guys really do like the straight forward approach. I hope you can tell him and keep him as a friend.
2006-12-03 16:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go out with him but try to make it so you can see your friends by telling him as much as you love him you need some time with your friends too
2006-12-03 16:51:39 · answer #4 · answered by yodavsgandalf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put it like this it happen 1 time it will happen agagin you could be happy for 1 day and the next but what about in a couple of months, years you never know go with your heart. good luck
2006-12-03 16:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by e m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey- it's okay. Sure, you can give it another go, BUT, if the same problem that cause you to break up the first time happens 2 or more times, it's time to let him or her go- even if you love them. It seems like you really like him. I say yes, go for it.
2006-12-03 16:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by Barbiex) 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think u should still go out wit him cause u still have feelings 4 him because if u go to a single life and he is going out with somebody else you would b sad and b thinking that
he was probly the one!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :) Lots of hope JINA
2006-12-03 16:45:42 · answer #7 · answered by Jina P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if u love him and cant stand to see him with another girl then yea give it a shot if its not working out at all when u guys are then maybe being friends is a better idea!
2006-12-03 16:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by Bri 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are so worried about not being able to go out anymore. Stay single.
2006-12-03 16:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think that u should and u should just be with him alot but dont be afraid to say "hey i dont have to be with u every second, im just going to spend time with the girls right now."
2006-12-03 16:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by CaRoLiNe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋