even though my parents are seperated my dad is still always calling my mom asking her where she is and who she's w/ even if she's at home he's done this his whoel life and i can't belive even though my mom's on her own he's still doing! he has serious control freak issues! (his mom is messed up and has them too) and even if my mom doesn't like this she's not the type tp stand up for herself. and my other question is wut do i do about it cuz he even does this to ME. i feel like when i'm on my own he's gonna bother me liek crzy and not let me do wut i want and be free. and my dad isn't an easy person to stand up to. any normal person is afraid of him. he has such a bad temper and when he gets mad he gets mad! he scares the **** out of ppl older than him. he's only like this w/ me my mom and bro and faking mr. nice guy to every1 else so every1 likes him even though they know how he is (it's our messed up sexist culture) and no1 wud support me (as i said messed up culture) so wut do i do
2006-12-03 08:36:30 · 6 answers · asked by mamama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if you don't want to talk to him get caller id and don't answer the phone when he calls tell him that he needs to respect your wishes without abuse or you will no longer allow him in your life if he gets physical call the police and have him arrested
2006-12-03 08:53:45 · answer #1 · answered by linda y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your mother don't find a way to stand up to him once and for all you are going to be messed up for the rest of your life also. Try clergy or counseling for you and mom. I am sure between the two systems, you will develop the confidence to explain to dad that you love him but he is pushing you away. Also, if he hasn't figured it out by now he needs to be told that his treatment towards your mother and you is more than likely one of the major reasons she is no longer with him. He is going to bully the two of you as long as you allow it. Yes, if he attempts to become physical and/or verbally abusive, you MUST call the police to let him know that you all are very serious and that you are not going to take his crap any more. If the police do get involved, you MUST follow up with prosecution. Have faith. God Bless You Both!!
Harassment if also a crime!
2006-12-03 09:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by BRENDA T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No kidding? I had the comparable situation. old guy used to call around 3 am as a results of fact the ****** works the evening shift, so as quickly as he gets returned from artwork, he could call. terrific element of do is to alter your telephone # so he can no longer call you anymore. it quite is not that high priced. additionally, inform you mom to have the recent telephone # indexed as inner maximum so he can no longer locate it in the white pages. additionally, whilst she palms out her new telephone to her pals, tell her to tell them to no longer tell him. And the terrific advice that i provides you is to tell you mom to ignore approximately him. whilst he calls, dangle up. If he keeps calling, unplug the telephone. After a on an identical time as, he's going to get the message that she does not choose to talk to him. If no longer something stops him, maybe it's time to get a restraining order. the possibility of reformatory could optimistically scare him. He could be a bully to you and your loved ones, yet in reformatory, he's going to be somebody's *****. there'll consistently be somebody harder than him.
2016-10-17 16:02:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he is calling on the phone, there is no need to be afraid. tell him that what you do is none of his business.unless he is calling with real concern and not just being a control freak. your mother need to do the same. she has to remember why they split up in the first place. also your mother is going to want to move on with her life and one day find a man that's going to be good to her. if she does not end this from your father now he will get worse when she does find someone.
2006-12-03 09:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your phone number, get a restraining order. Violating a restraining order is a felony and he'll be gone for a while.
2006-12-03 08:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by Greg P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should talk to him in a tender way and tell him that he should respect you and respect your privacy
and make him understand that it`s very important to you to have a very good relationship with him and that`s why you tell him those things
but try to be as nice as you can with him i mean he`s your father after all
2006-12-03 09:17:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋