I have been dating a woman for nearly 2 years.. I love her dearly. we were engaged and she gave the ring back a year ago..we continue to see each other, but every time time we get close to making plans again she finds a reason to break it off and we end up starting over again. 4 times now.. not sure how to handle this,
2006-12-03 08:29:54 · 27 answers · asked by ABE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've only been with each other for 2 years, you hardly know one another well enough to get married.
2006-12-03 08:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I can tell you this - I was with someone for 3 years off and on...it was love, but if I had been given a ring, I would have totally FREAKED out! I have been there and done that. Some people just don't wanna do it again...
So to answer the question "what would you do, after dating for 2 years?" If it works, work it. However, if you are looking to get married, it sounds like she may not be on the same page. Sit down and have a little heart to heart talk.
2006-12-03 08:36:33 · answer #2 · answered by Nuttie Nettie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like none of you are ready to move to the next chapter. The minute you move to the next chapter without a positive agreement, it will drown. Rushing things is not a good way to start things. Two years of dating, depending on how you to felt with each other while dating, may or may not be enough, need more time. Need more time to experience more of each other, weaknesses, strenghts, communication, loyalty, and more. You have to have key components that will make your relationship strong, without these key components you are just wasting your time.
If she finds a reason to break it off everytime you get close to making plans, that means she is absolutely not ready yet to move on to the next chapter. Either you give her time, give each other time, or you might want to be thinking about stoping, and perhaps just be friends. 4, is bigger than 1. It's enough. Know what you both really want, and if it is right for the both of you. Good luck.
2006-12-03 08:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by Mstislav 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something about the idea of marriage is obviously scaring her, so just back off a bit on the subject. Keep seeing her as usual and let things happen; there's not a time line on these things. It could be a few more years until she's really ready to make that kind of promise. It doesn't mean she isn't totally in love with you, it just means she's not 'there' yet.
2006-12-03 08:36:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i imagine the more youthful you're, the further reported the age distinction looks. lots takes position between the a at the same time as of 14 and 16, so it type of sounds like a higher deal than once you're 24 and courting someone who's 22. That stated, if you're actual attracted to this man or woman, you should a minimum of bypass out some situations if each of the dad and mom in contact are pleased with it. tell your associates to manage it.
2016-11-23 14:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after the first time she gave you the ring back, take it slow she's probably not ready to take the step. you can always talk to her and give her the ring back and tell her whens she's ready just put the ring on her finger. and if you get tired of the wait well I would tell her that you waited long enough and want a truthful answer. if she can't give you one. say I'm sorry but I can't wait any longer. and leave . go out and have fun. the right one will come to you.
2006-12-03 08:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes not ready for that much of a commitment rite now but she doesn't have the heart to tell you maybe you should talk to her and ask her straight out do you want to get married or not i need to know. if she doesn't tell you what you want walk. you know distance makes the heart grow fonder.if not find someone who is ready for marriage
2006-12-03 08:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to her. Tell her that marriage is in your plans for your life and that you would like it to be with her. Ask why she is hesitating to make a commitment and carry it through. If she tells you something you don't want to hear or can't correct to win her, then you will have to tell her good-by.
2006-12-03 08:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop making plans and go with the flow bro ya know
she might be layin with another *****
sounds like to me shes got the 2 year itch
sounds like to me she made you her *****
2006-12-03 09:30:37 · answer #9 · answered by Funnel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're blinded by love.
Let her go four times. If she comes back each time, she's yours. Anything less than that at this point is a waste of your time.
2006-12-03 08:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman is not ready for marriage. In fact, marriage at this point wold be disastrous, because she has a hard time making decisions, and sticking with them. In other words, she is 'flighty". High risk.
This is abusive, so get out of it!
2006-12-03 08:34:11 · answer #11 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋