I don't want to embarass him, but I was on his computer today and I accidentally found a bunch of foot fetish websites he'd been to. I was shocked, I had no idea! He always likes to rub my feet, but I thought he was just being nice, lol. It's completely new territory for me, and I can't say that I share his fetish for feet, but I'm open to it if it makes him happy. Still, I don't know how to approach him about it. I don't want him to think I was snooping, I wasn't. And I don't want him to get nervous or embarrassed. I'm thinking that if he wanted me to know he'd tell me, you know? I have to say it hurts a little that he's kept it from me all this time (we've been together 9 months now and we live together). I don't know what to do. Should I ask him about it or should I just let hjim come to me when he's ready?
2006-12-03 08:26:22 · 5 answers · asked by Morgan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I swear I wasn't trying to invade his privacy. I have a Mac and he has a PC so sometimes I need to get onto his computer to do something... it was all legit, I promise :).
2006-12-03 08:32:59 · update #1
Well, you sound like a cool girl. By that I mean that you aren't all dramatic about it and accusing him of being a freak or anything. I think that he has not brought it up to you because it is a very personal thing to him (or he may have just recently become interested in it). I'm sure he would LOVE to share his fetish with you, ESPECIALLY if you intend to support him and not make fun of him or think he is weird. Sure, no one says you have to be turned on by feet, and I doubt that he would expect you to...just letting him indulge himself in a supportive environment is all it will take to make him happy. Of course, we are assuming here that his interest in feet is limited to your feet.
As far as approaching him about it, I would do it indirectly. If you confront him directly, he will likely become defensive, even if you approach it nicely and respectfully. This will be because he is embarassed to have been "found out". His embarassment is the result of his expectation that you will not approve of his fetish, as most girls are just total judgemental b*tches about anything that is even slightly outside of normal. Be mindful, however, that as soon as the topic becomes an openly discussed topic in your relationship, he may get really excited and hope that you will indulge him on a regular basis, especially when it is new. Assuming that you want it out in the open and are willing to indulge him, I would handle it indirectly, as follows. Find an article or book or website that lists fetishes (make sure it includes mention of foot fetishes) and tell him that you want both of you to take a survey of what you are interested in. Make sure that it has a yes, no, and maybe option...as he may still be afraid to put yes. Trust me, he will put at least a maybe on the foot option, and you should too. Even if you aren't specifically into it, you should put maybe, because you are open to indulging him. Discuss your answers together...and agree to "experiment" with those items that you both marked maybe or yes. You may find that you have a lot in common.
By the way, you can get a list from www.alt.com, I'm not sure where on that site, but I saw a list once a while back when I was there.
Good luck.
2006-12-05 12:02:20 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong or obscene about the fetish your boyfriend has. many people have fetishes. Whether it be spanking..water sports..feet..so many ...too many to list.
Why not get yourself a pedicure..make your toes all pretty..and lay them in his lap. Let him enjoy the sheer pleasure he gets from your feet. Honestly..it is not such a weird thing at all. You might even find you enjoy having your feet catered too after abt..it can be very relaxing to have someone suck on your toes and massage your feet.
2006-12-03 16:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, don't tell him you were on his comp first of all, that might kind of piss him off because you're invading his privacy. Just let him come to you when he's ready.
2006-12-03 16:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by Captain Shrednaut 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him you know about it and go from there!
2006-12-03 16:29:18 · answer #4 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's disgusting..........
2006-12-03 16:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋