When does puberty usually kick in? My daughter is 10 and innocent as a daisy.?

Question

I tried to tell her about periods the other day and she didn't have a clue what I meant even though she is very intelligent. I was 12. I noticed at her birthday a couple of girls smelling of BO which is a sign. So it is around. What should I do?

Answer 1

Could be that your ignorance is innocent as a daisy?

Answer 2

It'll come soon enough. Then it'll be door slamming and ihateyouihateyouihateyou and boys and acne and hormones and all that horribleness that comes with being a teenager.
Am surprised she's shown no curiosity about periods but don't depend on the school to give her the facts - if you want something done right, do it yourself.
Buy her a copy of 'Are You There God; It's Me Margaret' - I read it at about her age and although it's a little bit outdated by now (sanitary belts!) it might help her understand what all the fuss is about.
And buy her a deodorant - you don't want her getting picked on for being the only one without one, even if she doesn't have bo yet. And make sure it's a fashionable brand. When I was in school I can remember this being veeeeery important.
They grow up so fast.... ah.

Answer 3

I started at nine but I know a girl who didn't start until 16, it's all very individual but you are doing the right thing telling her now that way she won't be scared if her periods start and she doesn't know what it is. Just explain that it's all normal and just means she is growing up (when the time comes of course) also don't seem embarrassed when you tell her or she will feel it's something to be ashamed of, just tell her as if you were telling her about your day, be casual about it and let her ask questions let her know it's normal and while she shouldn't feel embarrassed most people like to keep it private but that she can always come to you and ask questions and it will stay between the two of you. Read a parenting book/school age biology book to find age appropriate info to give her so she isn't overwhelmed, good luck and it will all work itself out when the time is right.

Answer 4

It's could be any age from 9 upwards.
Really all you can do,is keep on in forcing the fact that her body is changing,and that you're not trying to embarrass your daughter about having her periods.
You'll notice a lot of changes,mainly mood swings.These get really bad before she'll actually start her period,so beware and be prepared for her flying of the handle at the slightest thing.
Encourage her to be open to how she's feeling,and the both of you can work it out together.

Answer 5

I think now is a good time to start explaining what will end up happening to her body. She's going to start growing boobs, and getting hair, and she'll get her period at some point. I know you want her to be innocent, but I think 10 is old enough for her to understand the birds and the bees. Kids her age are probably already going through the changes...I wouldn't want to leave your daughter out of the loop. I learned pretty early, I had my first training bra at 8, and got my period when when I was 9 (isn't that the worst!).

Answer 6

I started at 10 in between 5th and 6th grade. The school did a sx ed class for us and explained to us about periods and pads and stuff and gave us sample packs of them. I never told my mom when I got it and she only found out months later when I had a blowout.

So I would check maybe amazon or barnes and noble and find some easy books about it and make sure she is aware and make sure she knows that you are there to talk to - I was too embarassed when I was a kid to rbing it up and my mom never mentioned it noce - she figured I had 3 older sisters that I should already know. I knew, but I still would ahve liked to ask questions.

And some kids don't start til they are like 15 or even 16 but kids nowadays are starting earlier and earlier so best to be prepared. My older sister started when she was in 4th grade - only girl in class who needed a purse cause back then we didn't ahve always pads - just those giant grandma pads..lol :)

Answer 7

Hate to break it to you but she could start anytime. My daughter just started her period. She turned 10 in July and has a chest bigger than some adult women.

Definately discuss how things will change with her before it sneaks up on you. She should also know about the birds and the bees. It isn't unheard of an 11-13 yr old getting pregnant.

Education is your best defense.

Answer 8

Well, I'm 22, I started @ 11. My mother tried telling me about it at age 9, I had no earthly idea either.IT IS DEFINANTLY TIME!! It would be embarassing if she started one day at school, and even worse if she didn't know what was going on. There are usually some little books that you can get at a local health center, that are geared toward telling girls at early ages what they should begin to expect.

You may also want a female relative or a friend to kind of talk to her about it, she may feel more comfortable talking to it with them. I hated when my father talked to me about anything dealing w/the human reproductive sys. (ie, birds & bees, periods, PMS, etc...)

Answer 9

From what I have heard, somewhere between 9 and 14 on the average but most girls I know, it was around 10 -11 years old. I suggest getting her a book on the topic.

Answer 10

Hiya, I was 10 when I started my periods, My Mum was prepared because she started hers at 9, my Mum got me some leaflets but I remember just shoving them in my drawer and getting embarrased when she talked about them! When they started not long after my Mum gave me the leaflets, I was straight back into that drawer getting them out and read them cover to cover! My only daughter has just turned 8 so I am debating whether or not to tell her about periods just yet, its just because of the young age that me and my Mum were when we started! you just do what you thinks best, at the end of the day you know your daughter best!! Good luck and look out for books or leaflets on Periods and Puberty, ask library, clinic or even school nurse at your daughters school! XX

Answer 11

Let her be a child. It's nice to know that there are kids out there who ARE still innocent- You've tried to talk to her; now, if she does get a period she'll think.."ooooh THAT"S what mum was on about!!" Anyway, her girlfriends will fill her in-whether you want them to or not! Just make it easy for her to talk to you- open up those chances, ask who wears deodorant in her class-she might want to start- that in itself is a HUGE thing for 10yr olds (just ask my son!!)It's all about the brand...or the roll on...or the spray...Make it a topic that is fun for mum and daughter talk about-maybe invlove her in some of your own rituals EG: get her to put away your own pads/tampons; she'll want to know what they're for. Let her try you deo, she'll feel like she is closer to you cause it's a girly thing- But don't do it until YOU are ready for that sweet little girl to grow up.......Mine (7) asked me 3 days ago where babies come from....we were out in the paddock checking our calving heifers- one happened to be smack in the middle of birth- so we sat there and watched---BEST ANSWER to that question!!! She's seen the stallion serving the mares before, so she knows how becoming pregnant works (for the animals, anyway....i think that is enough detail!) She just was wanting to know how they actually COME OUT....Thats one thing about a farm!!!