my boyfriend has changed in the last 5 months he try to tell me wot to wear an wot not to wear and when im not well he sends me texts saying have i got other plans not sure wot to do please help me
2006-12-03 08:01:56 · 28 answers · asked by lisa_mcelreavey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
GET OUT NOW!
he's starting to become possessive. he's not viewing you as a girlfriend, but PROPERTY!
this is how an abusive relationships start. very slow over time. first it's you can't wear this, or talk to this person. then he starts to tell you were you can and cannot go.
then he will belittle you until your feel worthless, and he will separate you from your family and friends.
then he might start slapping your around...and it will eventually increase until he's full out abusing you.
DUMP HIM! and if he seems like he can't get over it and move on. file a harassment charge against him, and get a restraining order.
im being completely BLUNT and honest with you about it, because i had a boyfriend like this once too. he hurt me, he hurt my family and friends...and he ruined my life for some time before i finally became strong enough to stand up for myself and leave him.
DO NOT allow him to control you hon, your not property. you do NOT deserve to be treated like this. your boyfriend should respect you, honor you, love you...not possess you and control you.
2006-12-03 08:17:44 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are sure!
You know what you have to do with a control freak; split!
Get some self-esteem. You don't need someone telling you what to wear, etc.
2006-12-03 08:04:50 · answer #2 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok from past experience I would say dump him sounds like hes cheating on you or hes not that in to you. Not trying to be a heartbreaker here but the sooner you realize that the guys a jerk the better you will be.I say move on their are a billion single guys in the world and it takes a while to find a perfect one.Do you no how many guys i dated before I found my prince? 20 atleast.
2006-12-03 08:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
The question is have the changes made you unhappy? Judging by your question it appear they have.
So do you want to spend time with someone who makes you unhappy? Have you tried talking to him about what has changed?
Although it maybe hard to accept, he may not simply want you as his girlfriend anymore? That said he should at least have the decency to tell you that, rather then play games with your emotions.
I would suggest you arrange to meet up with him (not phone/txt him), & talk about how you are both feeling. Once you do that you will know how to proceed & get on with your life. If he won't meet up with you, then he obviously doesn't value your relationship so move on.
But whatever you do, don't spend your life with somone who makes you unhappy! We all deserve happiness.
2006-12-03 08:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by Kingbee 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
tell him to respect you or bugger off. Wear what you want... As for the the last 1/2 of what you said, I didn't understand it...
2006-12-03 08:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a very insecure and manipulative sod. Get rid of him because you will be only facing problems with this man.
2006-12-03 08:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by ladysorrow 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he sounds a right loser and control freak and you are only in your 5th month of going out get rid now before he starts telling you who you can and cant see and where you can and cant go!
2006-12-03 08:06:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is starting to care about looks more than you. he probably wants people to think he has the hottest girlfriend ever because you wear what he wants you to. if he asks if you have other plans, he could be cheating on you so that if you tell him you do, he could go out with another girl.
2006-12-03 08:04:41 · answer #8 · answered by questionsgetanswers 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's simple, if you don't like what he has changed into..break up with him. No point in being in a relationship if you're constantly questioning it or if you're not happy.
2006-12-03 08:04:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he a different man then you liked before
i would dump him because you never want a guy to tell you what to where and what not
2006-12-03 08:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by daisylady2601 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋