If you were adopted would you look for your real parents or not?

Question

Just wondering if anyone has been in this situation before. Wondering if they looked for their real parents or not and Why ?

Answer 1

i was adopted, found my birthmom, she doesnt want anything to do with me, wont tell me anything about my birthfather, and i have a half sister that doesnt know about me...
im 39, not looking for a new mommy, but i respect her chiose

Answer 2

I am adopted, and yes, I did locate my birth mother. Let me first say that these "reunions" are not always the picture perfect fairy tale that television shows portray! Mine isn't a "horror" story by any means, it's just not this "hearts and flowers" stuff you see on television either.

I didn't know I was adopted until I was in my 30's, my parents decided not to tell me after my mother was able to have a child four years after they adopted me. I grew up in a loving and stable middle class home with two parents who loved me as much as anyone can love their child.

After my father passed away I because "curious" about my birth parents. My husband located my birth mother for me. Since I never told my mother that I was communicating with my birth mother, there was a lot of "guilt" on my part. I eventually broke off the relationship with my birth mother because the emotions I felt were too upsetting. My birth mother understood my feelings.

My mother passed away some years later and my husband once again, called my birth mother. There were no hard feelings and we began communicating. We have a relationship, we talk on the phone a couple times a month and have visited each other several times. Her life is very different from mine and I am extremely thankful that she made the difficult decision to give me up for adoption. She is a nice person who had a very difficult life. She never married and has no other children. I care for her but I have never viewed her as my "mother". I still feel a certain amount of "guilt", and at times I regret the fact that I ever looked for her. I think the reason it's difficult for me to look at her life is because it could have been mine.

I have never looked for my birth father (even though his information was made available to me and he did express an interest in locating me). I just don't want to "open any more doors".

I wish anyone luck who makes the decision to find their birth parents. It stirs up a lot of emotions for everyone involved and it's difficult. If I knew what I know now before I found mine, I don't think I would have looked.

That's as honest as I can be. It's only my experience and my opinion. Best of luck.

Answer 3

It would give me just a feeling of closure. I realize that the birth parents might not want nothing to do with me but then again I wouldn't know unless I tried. Just don't be expecting to become a happy family, although that is possible. I would always consider the persons who raised me to be my parents but I would want to know who birth parents were and probably even the circumstances around the adoption. Good Luck with your life, and remember it doesn't matter who gave birth to you it is who gave you the life u have lived.

Answer 4

I am adopted and no never looked for real parents because I didn't need to go back to the hurt and pain

Answer 5

I was adopted .....growing up i always wanted to know who my parents were ...who am i .....where did i come from ? I had so many question that i need answers for ?? who did i get my looks from ? why was i adopted ?
When I was 21 I found my mom ..even though it was a huge disappointment it was worth it ..i got family contacts out of it ..aunties, cousins ...that at the end made it worth it !
DO what you feel you need to do there is so many programs out there to help you...if you want it .......

Answer 6

I'm not adopted although their are times when I wish I was. I think it depends on the situation of how you became an adoptive child in the first place.

Answer 7

I`m not adopted, but I think that if I were, I`d want to know who my real parents were. I mean, I would know that my adoptive parents were who raised me and took care of me, but the people who concieved me were still my parents. I think it would be important to me to know where I came from.

Answer 8

Well, a lot of different questions bother me if I'm really adopted i would like to know my real parents and why settled me up for adoption.

In the strictest sense i would like to know my original parents and just thank them for bringing me up to this world. --> definitely i would be looking for them

Answer 9

I am not adopted, but I think I would look for my real parents, I would want to know why they did not want me, or what happened, if I look like them.

You should look for them, and it's not weird at all, really, not weird.

I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 10

i have never been adopted but i believe they have the right to know i think there should be a law that if an adopted child requests information on their parents they should have access to it

Answer 11

Yes. I am 14 and adopted and plan to find my mom and dad at 18. I think that it would be nice to meet them and stuff, know where I came from, you know?