why am i like this?

Question

whenever im with guys i like freak out and get sooo selfconcious. even with my boyfriend. i cant eat infront of them because i think that the will think im fat and i cant like be myself because i feel that isnt good enough. i really need to know how to change this.

Answer 1

You are young, and inexperienced. You will learn that the best thing is to just be yourself. People don't like you for trying to be something you are not. It is good that you care, but don't you think the other person is just as nervous as you? Your confidence will build as you mature, and don't worry yourself with an act. No false advertising, if someone is with you long enough to get to know you they will find out anyway, so just enjoy who you are. Believe me hon, you are good enough for the right guy, and to good for those that don't deserve you.

Answer 2

I have had issuessimilar to this myself. Trust me, it is hard to change, especially by yourself. Seeing a therapist, local couneslor, or just a close friend can help you. By talking about your feelings, you might be able to discover the root of them.It also helps to hear it out loud. When I said the way I felt with my low self-esteem, I realized how silly I sounded. I know it is a very tough thing to get over, but you have to try. Best of wishes.

Answer 3

I can't eat around guys either, I told my friends about it and they said that they are all the same way so I think all girls are like that.
To feel more comfortable around guys, don't try to be someone else. BE YOURSELF! I know you have probably heard that a million times but it's true. They might even feel the same way.

Answer 4

well not tryna sound like one of those psychiatrists or however you spell it but u shoud look at yourself and see all the positive things about you and dont be so selfconscious about yourself....plus who cares what other guys think?? u have a bf already anyway n he knows how u r....

Answer 5

they wouldn't really care, so just be your self