I am seriously considering adoption of a boy or a girl from a 3rd world country. I have felt very strongly about this for a while and I am finally at a stage in my life where I feel that I can contribute on a larger scale. I am currently single though and cant help but ask myself if a single parent home would be fair to the child or is anything better than the alternative of growing up an orphan?
2006-12-03 07:58:35 · 19 answers · asked by Pc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When I was married, I was still a single parent. Then I got divorced and was "officially" a single parent. My kids turned out just fine, not exactly overachievers, but they have a good work ethic and pay their own way.
I think one great parent is better than no parent.
Go for it--you will do a wonderful job. Just the fact that you have thought this out so much shows the compassion you have
2006-12-03 08:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by maamu 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you don't want a guy in your life, just ask a friend if they'd wanna move in with ya and help ya raise the child. I think it's a very honorable thing to take care of a child from a 3rd world country. So, in my honest opinion, it isn't really fair to a child to have only a single parent which would only give them a very narrow outlook on life. There's a saying that goes something like, "It takes a whole village to raise a single child." Basically, the more people involved in the child's life, the better.
2006-12-03 08:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by Russell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many waiting children in the US that desperately need a home so please consider them also. I'm not really a fan of taking children out of their culture and country to live in America when we have thrown away so many children already. It can be isolating for the child and can cause iden ty confusion but I wouldn't say it's right or wrong, just needs to be thoughtfully done if you adopt a child from another country. Of course, everyone wants to adopt a baby but you could really make a tremendous difference to a child in the US who has either suffered the loss of parents (either by death or abandonment) or an older child who is unlikely to be adopted because of their age or special needs. I work in human services and believe me, the things our children have endured rival many other countries stories with the exception perhaps of starvation. Whatever you decide to do, I hope you will consider waiting children in the US or whatever country you live in as well as those children in other countries. Good luck in your decision, whatever it is. Oh, and to answer your question, you can still be a good parent even if you are single but no mater what ethnicity, what age, raising children is hard work and requires a committment that preceeds all other committments, with the exception of a committment to a spouse. It is rewarding but doesn't always feel like it is. If you do this, make sure you are able to place the child and his or her needs first, because the days of doing things for yourself will be limited and you need to be aware how this decision will impact your life for the rest of your life. If you are able to make this committment, then you are ready to be a parent. Hope this helped a little....
2006-12-03 08:17:16 · answer #3 · answered by cheri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am adopted and I obviously think it's a wonderful thing. The fact that you are "single" won't matter to a child who has "no one".
Please don't be offended by my next question. Why does everyone want to adopt a child from a 3rd world country? What's wrong with all the children here in the US that need help?
I just don't understand the reasons. Is it cheaper to adopt from another country? Less paperwork? My nephew and his wife just adopted two children within the US and they didn't have to wait very long.
I think it's wonderful to want to help others, I just think we should be helping our own first. Best of luck to you whatever you decide.
2006-12-03 08:04:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking from being a single parent i will say it is hard but well worth the time involved ideally they need both parents but its not required its not an easy task to raise a child but if you do it for the right intentions and are capable single or not you can help change a life for the better good luck and i think its great that you are considering to help a child in need but don't forget that older children are in just as much need of adopting as younger ones
2006-12-03 09:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by linda y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an adoptive dad. My wife & I are both white, but we adopted an african american girl when she was 6wks old in Feb of 2004. We went thru a private agency here in the Houston area. We do have limited communication with her birth-parents, but it is thru the adoption agency.
We started the process in 2002, but after I got laid off from my last job & things started to get tight financially we put that on hold. My wife then thought going thru the foster system was a good idea in 2003 & we almost got a 2yr old with health problems. But unfortunately that fell apart at the last second & it was also the week of our anniversary. Foster adoption is not for everyone since the state will alwyas be looking over your shoulder. We then told the agency we went thru for foster adoption that we were no longer interested in working with them!
We did however go back to the private agency we had originally started with shortly after the foster adoption fell apart. Believe it or not on Valentine's day in 2004, we got a call that we were selected to meet with a mother that wanted us to adopt her baby girl. She's now ours & is a very happy child.
We are planing to go to Haiti for the next adopion. It is one of the poorest nations in this hemesphere. Many children are abandoned there & alot of orphanages have children up for adoption.
But you as a single person can adopt. God must've laid that on your heart to adopt a child. It don't matter whether he/she is from the states, or overseas. Just be the best parent that God has called you to be!
2006-12-03 08:16:08 · answer #6 · answered by Phil P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A loving and nurturing home is better than growing up in a orphanage I would imagine not having a home to call their own is got to be horrible. There are probably few things worse. However, I wonder if you are aware of the hundreds of thousands of children right here in our own country awaiting adoption. God bless****
2006-12-03 08:02:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
specific I plan on adopting 2 teenagers(toddler and toddler) whilst my husband and that i bypass domicile to his united states of america. i've got been battling infertility for the finished 15 months of marriage so i'm basically going to supply up for now and spot if something happens. It sucks coping with infertility as a results of fact i'm basically approximately 21 years old and my husband is 29 and we actually need teenagers. we is basically no longer likely to a checklist till whilst we bypass to his united states of america.
2016-10-17 16:01:13 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom was a single parent and she adopted me. I was there for her dating other people and I was there when she married the person that she wanted to be with. Its a wonderful thing and if you are emotionally and financially ready for it, then you should go for it. If you are set for it, don't hesitate you should do it.
2006-12-03 08:05:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A single parent is better than no family.
2006-12-03 08:04:46 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋