my boyfriend is the most wonderful guy, i love him and he loves me, Yet i can't get over his ex-girlfriend (even though he has)!
the problem is i feel like she is better than me (even though i'm more successful and older by one year) but by better i mean behavior wise. and also because SHE was the one who broke up with him, while HE really wanted her.
i talk and think about her more than i do about my boyfriend, i know it really bothers him.
he always assures me that nothing's going on between them but i can't believe him.
she called him once for no reason, she just wanted to talk, and then the other day i saw her comment on his page, she was flirting with him.
My boyfriend didn't respond to her and when she called he told her he has to go, but i don't know if they're talking to each other when i'm not around.
i don't think my boyfriend's over his ex even though he says he is and trys to show it to me.
i'm just very scared, and i REALY hate her!!!
i need help to get over this
2006-12-03 07:18:37 · 12 answers · asked by M T 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok first you need to see someone about building self confidence. AND if you don't trust your boyfriend you CAN'T ever totally love him. This is a problem that will destroy your relationship unless you do something about it. At least you admit it so that is a start. He's iwth ou not her and you have to decide if you can handle x's because if your over 12yrs old everyone has em.
Good luck
2006-12-03 07:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by kit_e_kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone hates their boyfriend's ex, it's in our nature, we're compelled to compete. My crush's ex had sex with him once just because he was a virgin and he needed it and she was like 'What the heck! Might as well" and then she told me that he had the smallest one she's ever seen... yeah, what a great way to see your very first crush treated. So I would say I hate her, but I'm a good Catholic girl and I have very few people on my "dislike list". I keep in mind that her grandma's 49, that her real dad's a drug dealer that she hasn't seen for five years and that this girl has already been in a sex tape and is known as a slut to everyone. She has her flaws, and while I am pretty jealous of her despite all of her problems, I realize that I like myself. I love my life and my friends and what I am today, even if she did get my crush first, another guy got me first so it kind of evens out. If anything, your bf's ex is jealous of you. But never let jealousy get the best of you, I believe there's TWO commandments about coveting, and there's a lot of things that didn't make it in the ten commandments. So just think of all your wonderful qualities and the things you wouldn't want to give up about your life and yourself.
2006-12-03 07:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just trust him.
easier said than done, i know. but i had the same problem, and he tried and tried to convince me and i never believed him until eventually he did leave me for her. not that it was my fault.
but if you can't trust him, you can't be with him. if you REALLY think they are doing something, find his phone bill and see, or have a friend follow him around or something and make sure. but if he finds out you are doing this he will probably leave you for not trusting him (which is an excuse if he is doing something to get out of the relationship) so make sure it is worth the risk.
2006-12-03 07:25:00 · answer #3 · answered by pikachu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I liked my ex boyfriends wife better than him ! He turned out to be a real jerk and i had her sympathy.You just have to put her completely outta your mind because she means nothing at all to you OR HIM .It is done easily by not thinking about it at all ! Plain and simple!
2006-12-03 07:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remember, ex's are ex's for a reason! Sometimes yes, there are unresolved issues, but it doesn't mean they're going to wind back up together.
2006-12-03 07:22:23 · answer #5 · answered by ♥N,K,E&DJ'§ Mommy♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get over the feeling and keep your relationship better and better and stop thinking about the ex gf becuz that is something you got no control, just realx and be cool!
2006-12-03 07:22:11 · answer #6 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he's over her then u should be too.. theres no compitition between u 2 so u shouldnt really have to worry
2006-12-03 07:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by Dont get Infected 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you suffer from extreme low self esteem. if they are in contact, you must speak to him about that. if there is some secrecy between them, then you must confront him or get out of this mess.
2006-12-03 07:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok well think about this... he only stops talking to her cause he wants to spend time with you... hes over her!! and you should believe him... he is with YOU afterall... dont be paranoid cause itll get to him and he'll get mad at you pretty soon... let go of his ex he has and you should too
2006-12-03 07:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by Jackie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He wouldn't be with you, he would be trying to get her back. Calm down.
2006-12-03 07:23:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋