My boyfriend, well now my husband when i met him i knew he smoked. When i got pregnant i ask him in a real nice way to quit because that will be bad for my coming baby. He didn't lisen to me and now 5 days ago i aborted my baby. I don't know to blame my self for not being strict and encouge him to quit or him for not putting any effort for quit smoking!!!!!!
2006-12-03 07:06:16 · 11 answers · asked by gracie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
first of all iam sorry that you had to abort your baby, thats tough, and the other thing is , you cannot ask a smoker to quit smoking, We the smokers dont want to change, Its this thing see, its like we cannot live without our ciggerettes, once we start we are teens, and we think nothing is wrong with smoking, we ignore the cancer warnings on the ciggerettes, Cause we feel fine, Listen, Stop asking him, If you really weant him to stop, try this, tell him to start smoking outside and not in the house, a new house rule
2006-12-03 07:19:07 · answer #1 · answered by trudycaulfield 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So start because of peer pressure, some to be cool, some for other reasons but once they get on them they are hooked. They just did a report on tobacco recently on History Channel and it told how addictive it is, more than heroin or coccaine combined. It is a drug and as such it is going to have to be dealt with as that, a habit that is not easy to control or stop. Not impossible to do but very hard for most. There will be withdrawal symtoms and such as all drugs have when you come off them but you are not to blame for the baby and neither is he. The smoking could have done some harm to it but I would check with the doctor to be sure what the cause would have been before blaming anyone. You can put your foot down and let it be known you will not put up with any smoking in the house or the odors of it come into the house, which means he would have to change clothes before coming in and use mouthwash as well and maybe even shower. Let it be known that you do not want that kind of thing around you and if he wants to do it, do it elsewhere with someone else that likes it. If he really has as much love for y ou as you may think, he will want to quit not only for you but for himself, which is the best reason to quit, for personal reasons. He has to see the result of the habit taking over and that it is not acceptable in your world as well as it is very costly too. At just one pack a day at $5 a pack it is almost $2000 that is being burnt up so he can kill himself faster. I dont' know about you but i could sure use an extra $2000 a year.
2006-12-03 07:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by ramall1to 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a smoker I know that only you can quit smoking when you WANT to quit. When I was 16 my parents told me that they'd give a car if I quit. and at 16 that's all you want right? Well, I did. I quit for a month and half, but that was it. They told me to quit for longer and I just couldn't. The pressure I felt inside myself to be "cool" and "fit in" with my firends was too overwhelming. I started again. So, what I'm trying to say is that no matter what, he has to want to quit, not you wanting him to quit will be enough
If you aborted, it's not JUST because he didn't quit smoking. You may be trying to use that as an excuse to cover for the other reasons
2006-12-03 07:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by ur a Dee Dee Dee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aborted your baby?? or you had a miscarriage? Im sure it didnt have anything to do with him smoking if you had a miscarriage but its still not good at all for him to be smoking around you. Miscarriages usually happen because there is somehting wrong with the baby genetically, etc.. Buy your husband some Smoke Away and tell him to use it...It works!
2006-12-03 07:15:41 · answer #4 · answered by Blondi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i began out comparable age you probably did and now im 18. I smoke a %. each few days. in case you may smoke and get your self to stop for some months then initiate returned etc. i think of you're thoroughly fantastic as a results of fact it quite is going to supply your lungs a gamble to heal slightly. yet i understand the form you sense relating to the stress. we are all going to die in any case, could besides stay in peace.
2016-10-17 15:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because everyone has the right to be morbidly stupid.
I honestly have nothing against smokers, I was raised around them all my life and its just something people do, I would never ask someone to put one out (it would never cross my mind). But, I do understand why you would want the best chance for your unborn, however, you have to understand that a heroin addict has about the same chance of quitting as a smoker.
Good luck and god bless!
2006-12-03 07:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All ways keep this in mind, people that want to smoke will do it no matter how many times they hear that is bad for them, he hast to stop smoking because he wants to not because you are trying to black mail him....You are the only one that knows if what you did was wrong, I hope and pray for you to find the confort that you'll need in the coming years. I wish you luck....greetings.
2006-12-03 07:21:18 · answer #7 · answered by nirak 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what!?... what do you mean?.... you aborted your baby cause your husband wouldnt quit smoking?...
#1 quiting smoking is incredibly difficult it is a scary addiction and people dont just quit cause they are asked nicely
and... people start smoking mainly because their friends did it when they were younger, they thought it made them look cool or older, their parents smoked, ect
2006-12-03 07:11:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If smoking bothers you so much, I don't understand why you married him?
2006-12-03 07:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by Feathery 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sicko
2006-12-03 07:17:00 · answer #10 · answered by Tera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋