I keep going out with my close female friend,(in touch practically everyday) we go to dinner, lunch together and for drinks in the evening. We’re ATTRACTED to each other, flirt with each other, we’re in touch practically everyday, can only open up too me, feels very comfortable with me, enjoys spending time with me,we trust each other etc.
She doen’t like it when I mention other girls that had caught my eye, she changes the subject ASAP.Recently she thought that I started dating a girl and she ignored me for a week.Was this jealousy or just a coincidence?My behaviour DID NOT change towards her+I'm not actually dating anyone.Was told she is happy for me,why wouldn’t she ask about this girl,seeing she’s a good mate?
I told her how I felt about her and her responses were:
1) "I can't imagine you not being in\a part of my life" MEANING???
2)"I don't deserve your feelings"? MEANING???
Did I get everything wrong??Does she love me??What should I do??
HELP!!!
2006-12-03
07:05:08
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I then told her a few weeks later that I needed some time away from her and she DISAGREED\WAS RUDE TOWARDS ME as a result---does it mean anything???WHY???
My reason was that she was behaving odd towards me and I thought it best we have some time apart.Especially for me to get over my feelings.
She’s gotten bck in touch—like nothing has happened.
Have said I value our friendship and I mean that. BUT I still have feelings for her.I miss her so much!What she thinking/feeling?
2006-12-03
07:05:38 ·
update #1
READ ALL PLEASE!!!
2006-12-03
07:06:02 ·
update #2
lol i like this question..
she wants a long term relationship with you.
shes the stuborn possesive type of girl (which is a good thing not bad)
in my honest opinion you and her will eventually be together in the end no matter what.. but shes being stuborn and being more a of a friend and not revealing true feelings.
If you dont want to be with her in a serious long term relationship then you should tell her now you dont like her that way, if you like her enough to spend the rest of your life with her then you should ask her out or carry on being friends until the both of you feel its naturally okay to do something more intimate.
she doesnt like you mentioning other girls obviously because she wants you to herself, she likes you.
a girl only ignores you like that for a week or so because shes effected by something (emotionally). Someone in love with you is more likely to ignore you than be nice everyday. Friends will always have a consistent friendliness towards you, lovers/likers dont, do you know why? They are easily effected by small things, its a way of them showing their displeasure so they can get over you or make you do the running if you really care.
And its a good thing your personality has stayed the same, dont change yourself because that'll lead to bitterness, if you act the same and friendly all the time she will keep coming back.
"I can't imagine you not being in\a part of my life"
simply means she needs you alot (either as friend or more) and she could never get over you
"I don't deserve your feelings"?
means = she might not think shes good enough for you because you havent done enough.. shes trying to say "show that you like me" so you need to grab her by the waist and seriously just kiss her dude.
Dont worry though you havent done anything wrong, just show her that you love her, it looks like you will have to do most the work. And because you still have feelings for her probably means SHE is the one for you. If you want to change destiny by being distant with her thats your choice.
gd luck :)
2006-12-03 09:16:43
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answered by CoolD 3
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First of all never joke with the cops or talk openly with them. They can and will use everything you say against you. the judge will have the notes the cops took about what you said and since you seem to have admitted to being a shoplifter in the past, not just this time, he could decide to punish a little harsher than he would have. That said, you ask for adjudication. they put you on probation with fine and if you aren't arrested again for anything, usually with in a year, it won't go on your record. Varies from state to state so u would need to check out your states laws. Also, the value of what you took makes a difference as to the level of the crime. Some states when you steal more than $50 it is a felony. Under that a misdemeanor. Since it's your first offense you should get probation. As to your record afterwards, if you can't do adjudication, you might be able to have your record expunged after you complete probation. You again need to check the laws on how that's done in your state.
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answered by Anonymous
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maybe she thinks that you have lost interest in her and perhaps she got back in touch because she thought and believed that maybe you two had something important and worth keeping so she never completely gave up.....
she obviously loves u and the bad thing is if u don't feel tha way she does u are leading her on becuz you are or were showing her the same emotions that she is or was showing you...
she is jealous but the fact that u said you were also attracted to her then.... but at least you told her how you feel which is an excellent start and yes she loves you.
BUT REMEMBER..
u don't know what you have till its gone,..so until you really are sure that she is not the one u want,don't let go just yet.. you might never get her back...
2006-12-03 07:45:14
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answered by gabi c 2
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She deffinatley seems like she likes you alot and She dose have a little spite of Jelousy in her b/c she likes you so much. When she said "I don't deserve your Feelings" She is creating a guilt trip for you so that you will ask her to be yours. Also, from what your saying, you like her too, Why not just give it a go? The reason why she didn't ask about the "other" is b/c she was afraid that it was true and was not willing to get her feelings crushed. I wouldn't say she liked you I would say that she really really loves you. So like I said before just try it out for a little while. If you find you need more help with her e-mail me.
2006-12-03 09:01:47
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answered by Anonymous
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I think deep inside she loves you but is afraid to admit it to herself. Its tearing her apart (most likely) that you are attracted to another girl, especially when it is effecting yalls relationship. She is probably afraid to lose her best friend (?) to another woman who you will ultimately be spending a fair amount of time with. Plus, if she came to terms with how she feels about you and confessed her feelings to you, what would that do to your relationship? She is probably confused because she loves you but doesn't know what will happen to the friendship if she admits it. Its clear she wants you in her life and that you are a big part of it and mean something special to her! Could you see yourself with her as more than friends?
2006-12-03 07:15:50
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answered by Amy V 2
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Although she respects your friendship, she has stronger feelings for you than what she or you want to admit. She is probably afraid to tell you that her feelings are deeper than friendship because she is probably afraid to lose your friendship and scare you off so to keep you in her life, she settles for being your friend. It may not have been jealousy when you looked at other girls, but hurt feelings that you would say something nice about them that you might not have said to her.
2006-12-03 07:18:02
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answered by BabyC 1
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She's displaying signs of jealousy when you mention other women. I'd say she loves you but is afraid of losing your friendship if things don't work out. Talk to her, tell her honestly how you feel and take it from there. Good luck.
2006-12-03 07:22:07
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answered by F 3
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It sounds like she likes you, but doesn't want to get involved just yet maybe because she also has feelings for someone else. Maybe she is just judging whether another relationship is about to start or not, so doesn't want to start anything with you because you mean a lot to her and she doen't want to hurt you or damage your relationship.
2006-12-03 07:10:06
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answered by shesaclevergirl 2
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Sounds like shes interested in you more than a friend...duhhhhh Wow some men really need to get a clue....cmon now you arent really that dumb are you??? Have you tried making a move on her?? Maybe thats what shes waiting for.
2006-12-03 07:08:41
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answered by michelle 5
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although your description is very detailled, it is very tricky to answer this. so, what i write now is only one possible way to look at it.
it appears to me that your friend is rather 'possessive'. she doesn't like to share you. that can be a positive element of course, but i really think it's not. be very careful before you start something serious... you might get 'imprisoned'.
2006-12-03 07:14:49
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answered by belboy 1
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