Last night I was out with friends and I ended up calling my ex at a bar. I don't know what compelled me to do that but I did. I just called to say hi. He says he miss me, to be careful and be good. He says it was nice to hear my voice. Does this mean he still cares? I didn't stay on the phone for that long. I tried to keep myself from talking to him because I don't want to get into another argument. Yes, we are broken up and when we get a chance to talk we still argue. He ends up saying all these mean things to me. That it was my fault that we broke up. I am in school and away from home. It was only for 14 months I will be gone. But he lost his patience. Is he even worth my time to have some kind of ties with him? Or should I leave him alone and move on? Its been 6 months since we broke up.
2006-12-03 06:41:53 · 10 answers · asked by lala15 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He probably does still care, but that doesn't necessarily mean you should try and get back with him. If he says mean things to you, he could be emotionally abusive. And while he may care about you, you don't need that in your life. I'd say cut the ties and move on.
2006-12-03 06:45:09 · answer #1 · answered by Viki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the one who obviously still cares is you. Since you are his ex and you still argue, there's something in the relationship that's been left unresolved, whether it be your feelings or something underlying that just needs to be talked out. Either way, it exists.
If he treats you like dirt on a regular basis, it probably isn't the best idea to get involved again. You said he lost his patience because you were going to be gone for a little over a year, and though that's understandable, it indicates a lack of trust.
Relationships take work, no doubt about it, but maybe you two should work to be friends at first, and start off with a clean slate. Make him aware of whatever it is you're feeling for him now, and try to see if he's willing to let you in on what he's feeling for you. Try to make him understand that neither one of you were responsible for the break-up, that things were hectic, but you don't want to lose touch.
One question poses itself: when will you be back at home? Maybe the fire of the past relationship can be rekindled if you aren't away. I think that perhaps something is still going on with you two, and that once everything has settled down, it will be easier to get a clear answer in terms of where the two of you stand.
I wish you the best of luck, take care!
2006-12-03 06:49:29 · answer #2 · answered by Elicit Malice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer to this.
If all you do is argue, then it wont get any better if you hook back up and staying friends will only every lead to that.
If he cant find the time to wait for you to come home, then he obviously doesnt hold you in very high regard, this guy sounds a bit selfish and cant handle being a man.
It wasnt your fault, so the next time he blames you, just tell him where to stick it and tell him if you didnt break it off id still be with you.
Give him one of those "Look at all a this" Kanye West style! That'll get him going!
2006-12-03 06:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by adnie25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know but after six months I think you should move on otherwise you would of got to gether by now.
2006-12-03 06:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by Tulip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont like long questions,
thanks for 2 points
2006-12-03 06:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u guys always get in fights then just leave him
2006-12-03 06:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by gelcoolgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he was just being polite and nothing more..leave him alone and move on
2006-12-03 06:43:56 · answer #7 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone and move on and really move ooooonn.
2006-12-03 06:45:04 · answer #8 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on
2006-12-03 06:45:41 · answer #9 · answered by cailincox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on. ex's are ALWAYS ex's for a reason. remember that!
2006-12-03 06:45:08 · answer #10 · answered by Presh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋