kids. After 2 hours, we still hadn't ate. Isn't that odd?
2006-12-03 06:40:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Who said I didn't help out? And who said I bad mouthed the hostess?
You two are a little nutso.
2006-12-03 07:15:51 · update #1
yes .people have only limited patience
it would be normal to begin with audeuvres and when everybody was there sit down for dinner .2 hours would be the limit more or less
or everybody would be tooo drunk to eat.
2006-12-03 06:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
my answer Its always rude unless you had a previous engagement.
but it is odd if a normal mealtime like lunch or dinner has passed without food.
if the party happened in a between meals time slot I wouldnt expect food until late in the party.
if it starts an hour or so after lunch for a Childrens Party its often assumed the children had lunch before coming. there is no problem with letting the kids run around and play and serving the cake and ice cream just before sending all the kids home where they will get dinner at 5pm or so. Kids will grabs handfuls of chips and drop them on the floor or a thousand other messy things which is why you cannot set food out like you would at an adult party. kids also get wilder and more hyperactive after eating stuff like sugary cake. Which is another reason for a wise hostess at a large kids party to have the cake last.
2006-12-03 17:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by Syberian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a great question. I suppose if "party at 2" and "dinner at 3" is printed on the invitation and you haven't eaten by 5 and have somewhere to go or your children are acting up, it would be fine to leave. Afterall, you are not there for the food, you are there for the child's birthday.
I'd thank the hostess and tell her you have a prior commitment (leave out "with a Big Mac" part).
If no dinner time was specified or if you are just leaving because you are angry about the late dinner, then, yes, that is a bit rude. Your attitude will probably be detectable and you'll be making yourself look bad.
Of course, It's also bad hostess etiquette to serve dinner late.
2006-12-03 14:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by lazykins 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Essentially you can leave a party like that whenever you want. What would be rude would be to make a big deal about why you are leaving.
Yeah, I agree it is a little odd. A birthday party would imply that at least cake would be served.
2006-12-03 15:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by Jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is rude. Of course you wouldn't say "see ya I have to leave because I'm starving and you haven't fed me yet". If she was serving a full buffet like meal I suppose it would depend on the time of the party (noon, dinner). She could have had snacks.
Maybe she hasn't had a lot of experience entertaining and was overwhelmed. Next year maybe you could offer to help......
2006-12-03 14:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by rng4alngtyme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you never gave a party.
Did you go in to the hostess and offer your services?
Or did you just sit there bad mouthing the hosts??
Did you as a classy guest bring hors d'oeuvres just in case
the hostess had a bad day, had noone helping and
was running behind her planned schedule.?
Bad Bad, Picky spoiled brat guest is what you sound like.
Yes....everyone tries to have a 'perfect' party....but sometimes...poo poo happens.
Not only that....at birthday parties, unless it's a sit-down adult birthday party...it's all about the kids. They never want to eat.
And...handling kids and keeping them happy is a very difficult job...even for a party.
Shame on you for not helping out and for getting arrogant and leaving.
Sorry it wasn't all about 'you'....it was about the kids.
2006-12-03 14:47:29 · answer #6 · answered by COOKIE 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Were you only there for the food?
Birthday parties are about playing, celebrating and having fun. This culture is too concerned with what we're going to eat and when. Perhaps the host was waiting for other guests to show up, maybe the food wasn't ready, or maybe (gasp!) she wasn't planning on feeding everyone.
2006-12-03 14:46:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My sister-in-law had a bday party and the food wasn't served after 3 hours. We had promised to see a good friend off for military duty so we just made our good-byes and left. So, if you have to leave, just make your good-byes and leave.
2006-12-03 15:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i went to a wedding once and we were all ready to go, but we were like "okay, we'll wait til they serve cake-then it'll be okay to go"....hours go by....we finally left and they still hadn't cut the cake........it was not rude of you to leave after two hours....sounds like the party wasn't planned well
2006-12-03 15:41:00 · answer #9 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is poor planning but you sound like you were only there for the food. Perhaps it is you being rude.
2006-12-06 11:42:35 · answer #10 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋