Ok so here's the story, my ex is in the army and we met over the computer, he wasnt in Iraq when we met. Well, we lasted like 2 to 3 months together and we broke up 'cause he was leaving to Iraq and was diagnosed to die in Oct. He had broken ribs and got shot the first time he went to Iraq. Well, he tought that it was gonna hurt less being apart for the "fact" that he was gonna die. Then couple days after we broke up I found out he had a new gf, I got mad and sad as f*ck and I tought he was just playing w/ me, I felt horrible. Then he went back to his fort and a month later he had the chance to go home for just one day cause he had to complete some workpaper and that night he called me and I went to his house and talk for a lil bit, said good bye and left. Then in Oct. he was already in Iraq and sended me a message that he still loves me and that I mean a lot to him and he ask me back and I said yes. He left the other girl for me. So we started to send messages everyday...more details
2006-12-03 06:37:26 · 10 answers · asked by Liz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and he ask me to send him a sex letter I wrote him all kinda of letters, in bath tub, in the shower on the sofa, in the pool, on the beach, everyplace you can imagine and all positions but nothing seem to satisfy him so I sended him a letter but I didnt finish it because I didnt wanna write the samethings from before...well on that one letter he wrote me back and told me I was nasty and dirty and I felt like someone had grab my heart and rip it, at the same time I got so Fking angry as heck and I told him that I wasnt gonna let noone put me down like that and that I didnt wanted to be with him, it was over. so he never wrote back and nothing. Well we were VERY DEEP IN LOVE with each other. He even got my name on his arm a tattoo. I gave him all of me, every lil piece of me. I still love him and now I got his address from iraq and i dont know if i should write him of not. hes having a really hard time, he got shot again. he doenst know i got the address and I dont know...more details
2006-12-03 06:47:59 · update #1
if i shoul write him, he doenst know i got the adress and i dont know if he wants to know a word about me....
and I was thinking to write to him as a friend and not about what I feel since he has a gf already.
Oh! almost forgot he also compared me with his ex gfs and that got me even more angry!!!
2006-12-03 06:50:14 · update #2
he didnt want to be discharged because he felt like he wne t to the army for nothing, and he had lost many friends, he didnt want to let anymore frinds die and if they die he wanted to at least feel like he tried to help them.
2006-12-03 06:54:21 · update #3
and when he found this other girl he was in the fort he wasnt in iraq yet.
2006-12-03 06:55:07 · update #4
I also know hes very deep in love with his gf and it hurts everytime I see teh messages he writes to her.
2006-12-03 11:01:42 · update #5
As a military wife I'll tel many many thigns these guys do while they are deployed are not their true selves. you should write to him and tell him everything you are feeling. The good and the bad. After that wait to see what he has to say. If he really loves you and wants to talk there are so so many ways for him to call you and talk for a short time. Espescially if he has been injured again.
Just remember this, our men and women are under a ton of stress out there and sometimes they are not thinking straight when they write home. Just be honest don't harbor all of your feelings because all that's going to do is hurt you more.
Good Luck and Bless all of our Military home and away.
2006-12-03 06:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... most people with husbands/boyfriends in Iraq have a hard enough time without their boyfriend being slated to die or dating other girls. How did he even find another girlfriend when he was dying in Iraq? Write a letter expressing your feelings just so you can vent, honestly, it sounds pretty complicated and whether you want to end it or continue it, your feelings about all this should be communicated to him. Don't worry so much about being needy or hard to get or anything like that, you're already hard to get since he's all the way in Iraq, and your feelings deserve to be communicated!
2006-12-03 14:44:01 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter, sure. But I think you'll need to take some time and discuss the events that lead up to your first break up. Express your feelings of hurt and distrust when you found out he was dating another chick after telling you he was leaving you cause he was dying. Listen to what he has to say. Maybe things will work out, maybe not. But be sure to communicate.
2006-12-03 14:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by Viki 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes you should. If he's in the service he needs to know people care about him at home. Write him back and be positive
2006-12-03 14:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by Foss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol sorry but how could you have bought into the story that he was in the army and diagnosed to die?? if he was terminally ill he would have been honorably discharged
2006-12-03 14:46:12 · answer #5 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should write him a letter.
2006-12-03 14:39:04 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Natasha♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, send him a letter asking y he got a new g/f, and then broke up w/ her, cuz that can hurt, A LOT. good luck =]
2006-12-03 14:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by Jpizzle 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
long distance relationships are hard!
2006-12-03 14:43:23 · answer #8 · answered by onc4ever@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him way you feel
2006-12-03 14:40:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i though he was goind to die?
2006-12-03 14:39:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋