Should I Be Annoyed?

Question

Husband and I relocated back to his home state, and live in the same city as his two grown daughters. Our birthdays are four days apart, and I doubt that mine will be acknowledged on any level. Even though I've been the one to make sure everyone has gotten gifts on all occasions, I'm pretty much blown off every year. One daughter said she wanted to take my husband to dinner, but did not ask if I had any plans for him nor included me in the invitation. We tolerate each other for his sake, but I have a far better relationship with her sister. Even with our mutual tolerance, I thought she should have at least asked if I had any plans for my husband. Am I wrong to be annoyed? I'm a little irked with my husband that he didn't at least check with me too, but he's a typical guy with iffy judgment when it comes to social situations so I've cut him a little slack...

Answer 1

that's the problem, you cutting him a little slack. you need to tell him how you feel about all of this. don't make him chose between you and his daughter, but explain to him what bothers you. the problem can not be corrected if you don't speak up.

Answer 2

You should be annoyed......with your husband. He is married to you not his daughter and he should have been the one to say "That sounds nice honey, but I need to check with my wife to make sure she hasn't already planned something" The one you should be cutting slack is your step-daughter.

Answer 3

i would be annoyed, but the problem is that your husband sees nothing wrong with the situation and his daughter is too immature to accept the fact that your with her father. so good luck, and hopefully she will come around.

Answer 4

Did you get the condensation thing resolved?

Answer 5

babe thats wats up ...do what you think is right dont let people you dont know take descisions for you