2nd time wedding Halloween Party?

Question

I am marrying my ex-husband whom is also my best friend again in October 2007. We are not looking to spend a lot of money - just share with our family and friends our love for each other. My ex has recently adopted my daughter(whom is from a relationship I had while we were divorced) and we want to share our new life as a complete family. The problem that I am having is that my mother wants to know why we are just not getting married by a JP and then going to a restaurant to celebrate. We have decided that we want a wedding - A halloween party in reality. Is this wrong? should we just be traditionally low keying our marriage?
I need some advise please

Answer 1

A wedding is for the couple involved, not for anyone else. The others come at your invitation, to celebrate your joy. Design it any way you want: it's your wedding.

That the two of you are doing a re-rerun is excuse enough not to do the traditional. Certainly a white gown would be inappropriate. So you may as well have fun, and those friends of yours (and relatives) who support your choice will be there. And I suspect plenty of others who might "tisk, tisk" in their heads will also be there, out of curiosity if nothing else.

Live long and prosper! Delighted you got back together.

Answer 2

There is no reason the two of you should not celebrate the fact that you have found each other again and want to share the day with those you love. However, you should note that pre-wedding parties aren't really appropriate and there may be a few elements that might not feel right either (first dance as husband and wife, father "giving you away", garter, etc). Think about what makes sense and follow your instincts. Also note that anyone who has given you a gift the first time around really isn't expected to give again. Although some guests may give anyway, you shouldn't expect it.
A Halloween theme sounds like fun! Enjoy!

Answer 3

This is to be a celebration of your love and re-commitment to each other. Why should you just settle for a JP and a small dinner at a restaurant? Think of it this way. What if you two had never divorced and decided that you wanted to renew your wedding vows. This is almost the same thing. Married couples celebrate with big weddings and receptions for their renewal's so why shouldn't you and your ex have the same thing for your 2nd wedding? I say have fun and do it the way you want to.

Answer 4

it quite is an somewhat huge deal to teenagers. useful, your wedding ceremony is one time and Halloween comes each 3 hundred and sixty 5 days - yet a newborn shouldn't see it that way. They wait all 3 hundred and sixty 5 days for the cool holidays to come again around, and to have it decrease short to bypass to a humdrum wedding ceremony might suck (no longer that your wedding ceremony could be boring - yet from a newborn's attitude, they are all boring). And Luv2Answer is optimal - there are purely maximum of years teenagers can trick or handle, and then it quite is over. To counter the "one wedding ceremony/many Halloweens" argument, you may say which you would be married for existence, yet trick-or-treating holidays come to an end after some short years. In our family, we like Halloween. like it, teenagers and adults alike. it quite is sometime a three hundred and sixty 5 days of relaxing and myth. Now that the youngsters are too old to trick or handle, we would be throwing events each 3 hundred and sixty 5 days. i'm no longer suggesting you may replace your date. You look know-how approximately human beings no longer with the ability to make it, so as long as you're happy with that and not green with envy, it quite is super. yet specific, Halloween is an somewhat huge deal.

Answer 5

Hello, this is your marriage, and even if you have already been married, you are still getting married now right? right! So do what you and your soon-to-be husband want to do, and have the halloween wedding. :D
Since you already did get married, make this wedding more fun, and all about your new formed family.

Oh, and btw there is nothing wrong with wearing a white dress if you want, that old tradition is thrown out the window these days. It's suppose to represent innocence and purity, but there are very few "innocent and pure" brides out there, and they still wear white.

Answer 6

If a halloween party is what you both want, then go for it. Theres nothing wrong with that. Weddings are a wonderful way of showing everyone how much you love eachother plus you were seperated so its like a reunion. thats worth celebrating.

Answer 7

No, having a halloween party/wedding is not wrong at all, you do not have to follow tradition! Being you is being different. I don't know what kind of decoration you would like, besides halloween. But Dollar stores are really, almost the best place to buy halloween decorations for cheap & they look good!
~ TAWANNA ~

Answer 8

Weddings are beautiful things-- celebrate finding your love again! I say go with your heart and have the wedding/ halloween party.
Ideas for your wedding: flower girl (your daughter?) sprinkling fall leaves in lieu of flower petals, pumpkins carved with hearts for centerpieces, and halloween candy sprinkled across the tables.
Congratulations on finding love again, and good luck.
Your mom should be happy with your new family...she'll come around.

Answer 9

I wouldn't. I'd quietly get married and pretend the divorce never happened. I'd also advise you to think about why you got divorced in the first place and question if that might happen again. I agree with your mom.

Answer 10

Hey you've done the traditional already.

I think you should be asking why the make up/break up, not when and the how? Obviously not all is good but not all bad.

Wedding is but a day.