So Ive knowen this girl for about 3-5 months now. A few days ago she ask me if I like either of her friends I said "no, I actually really like you more than either of them" She blush and smiled at me and sayed really!?". After that talk we went to this party. At the party she follow me everywhere and was just sitting on my lap or wanting to dance with me or do shots. She call her ex boyfriend friends who wanted to come to the party but instead of her friend talking to her, her ex got on the phone and started just harrassing her. I walk in the room when she was talkin, I ask if everything was ok? She said ya but then said to her ex and O ya to be more detail Iam with chris then she grab my hand and hung up on him. I look really deep into her eyes and I got her up and hug her and said he not worth the time to even talk to. I think I'm going to take it slow and wait before I ask her out but if I meet up with her ex I'm going to kick his *** for treating her like ****? Is that wrong tho?
2006-12-03 06:23:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As to your last question: Yes it is wrong.
Let him leave in dignity, or just fade away.
Try to work on something new with this girl, don”t try to correct her ex’s behaviour.
Good luck!
2006-12-03 06:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by saehli 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, leave him alone. Maybe he's cut up about the two of them not being together anymore. You can't go and kick someone's @ss just 'cause they have issues with the person you're chasing. In fact, maybe she gives him reason to act that way by treating him really badly/messing him around and you don't know about it.
Besides, the two of you aren't even a couple. If she sees you acting out of jealousy now- especially in a violent way- it might put her off going out with you at all.
In fact, if you sense any love/hate feelings between the two of them- it might be worth staying well away and not getting hurt.
Just stay chilled. Her ex's feelings are his problem, not hers and certainly not yours.
2006-12-03 06:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by midsojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it slow. Maybe her ex was a dick, but at least he had a dick. Girls stay with guys who are horrible to them because they can't stand good guys that are too afraid to take what they want. My advice, tell her "I'm going to see this movie tomorrow, you should join me.. but no holding hands in the popcorn bowl... I don't know you that well." And then she's say yes and you'll go out. THEN, once you're with her, never talk about the ex. Personally, I love with other guys complain about me to girls because it ONLY helps me... seriously. Keep you're focus on you or her, never him.
2006-12-03 06:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by locusfire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is wrong. Don't get involved. She needs to fight her own battles. He did not hit her so I am sure she can verbally defend herself. She did taunt the guy saying she was with you, so she just needs to fight her own battles and keep you away from it. Some girls try to pit a couple of guys against each other just to make herself feel good and desired. This is the greatest form of selfishness and insecurity. Watch out.
2006-12-03 06:38:21 · answer #4 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really thats so sweet to care for her in her situation. but don't get into a fight with the loser. just wait for a couple of weeks to ask her until then show her your beetter qualities. so when the time is right she has reasons for going out with u.
2006-12-03 06:30:30 · answer #5 · answered by a.j. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is wrong. From the story you just told, SHE is the manipulator. SHE had to rub into her ex's face who she was with?... It sounds like she wants you & him to be enemies.
2006-12-03 06:28:26 · answer #6 · answered by MisterRE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kinda cuz my ex did that to me so i decided to just forget about him but it was his decision to be mean to her and i dont really think it is bad for u to kick his *** so ya but if u need more advice u can email me at huskiepawprints2012@comcast.net and i can help
2006-12-03 06:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no hun don't get in to fights, it'll make it harder for both of u. Just be there for her, n if things get outa hand call the autorities to deal with him.
2006-12-03 06:26:54 · answer #8 · answered by kitXcat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
myb it is not, but he is ex, he doesn't exist no more in her life, which i didn't find in your story.. just be careful not to be used as a get-over boyfriend and do not be the one that would make her to go back to him..
2006-12-03 06:29:16 · answer #9 · answered by nik08la 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me as if she set you up and used you for the revenge she wanted on him and i would bet she's done it before..some women are just b*tches
2006-12-03 06:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋