I want to apologize to someone that I told a horrible lie to, just to push them away from me. I was going through a lot with this person so I needed to find a way to make this person hate me just so he would stop dealing with me. But its been a week since I've talked to this person, although I have asked God to forgive me I want the forgivness from this person too. In God's word he state's that we should always forgive, I want to write him a letter letting him know why I did what I did. In hopes that he understands, but the last thing he told me was he hoped I died and went to hell. So my question is how much more time should I let pass before I can write my letter of apology?
2006-12-03 06:23:28 · 4 answers · asked by Ms. Educated 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Write the letter now. The longer you take the harder it will get to write the letter. If he accepts, good. If not, then move on, you've done your part and there's no point on dwelling on it. Maybe in time he will forgive you. Just let him do it on his own time. If he is a friend you'll hear from him soon. I've had a friend extremely mad to the point of saying to never, ever talk to him again. To get out of his life forever. He was very adament about that.The next day he was talking to me like nothing ever happened. Life is full of surprises. Maybe your friend just needs a cooling down period, Give him time and hope for the best. Peace.
2006-12-03 06:37:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the letter for you or him? Being sorry for what you did does not automatically mean the other has to give you another chance to be stupid towards them. You can write the letter if you want which I think is more for selfish reasons but I don't think you can force a person to stop thinking of you as mean and spiteful because of a hokus pokus formula of how forgiveness is supposed to work. You can say your sorry till the moon falls from the sky but that does not put control of someone elses will into your hands. What if they accept your apology but decide not to have you in their life? Does that make nil your apology? If they refuse to forgive you does that mean you withdraw your apology?
A more suitable consequence would be for you to lose that which you abuse. Sorry but this is the real world chum, you can't run roughshod over people and imagine that there are no consequence for doing so. Grow up and learn from your mistake. Be a better person.
2006-12-03 14:41:19 · answer #2 · answered by messenger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is in pain right now and it might help ease his pain if you are honest with him. I believe you should not wait. I know it is scary to put yourself out there like that and he might not accept your apology but those are the consequences of what you have done.
2006-12-03 14:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by thewolfskoll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply find a time to tell him in person you were sorry. That's it, no explanation, just tell him you are sorry for hurting him, it was all you could think of at the time. No big "reasons or explanations".
2006-12-03 14:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by June smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋