My friend's boyfriend is like really rude to me and my other friend. When we try and talk to her when he's around, he gets this angry look. :X I don't wanna say anything because they just started dating and because she's my best friend but i want what's best for her.
Advice Needed.
2006-12-03 06:17:14 · 14 answers · asked by Sen10r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's a freshman
He's a senior
They just started seeing each other
and he always has something to say about me or my friends
She doesn't really deal with things
She blows things off and puts them aside for later.
I've told her that I don't approve of him and i'm surprised her parents of this relationship.
2006-12-03 06:27:23 · update #1
Stop talking to her and wait til she sees the light.
That's about all you can do w/o looking like the bad guy here.
cereal
2006-12-03 06:22:42 · answer #1 · answered by cruddypantz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know EXACTLY what your going through. What you need to do is tell your friend. If they are a real friend (this only counts if you've been friends longer than the relationship has been going on) they would look at both sides. But if you did something to hurt him and make him dislike you, then you will want to keep your friend out of it. Otherwise, she should trust you more since they just started dating and she probably knows you better, too. But when talking to her, don't be all up in her face and DON'T hold a grudge. Just keep things positive and calm and tell her what you feel like when her boyfriend gives you those looks. AND if her boyfriend trully likes her, he would try and be friends with you. That goes for you too.
2006-12-03 14:29:35 · answer #2 · answered by Cutieful &. {♥} 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you think what's best for her is a guy who's ugly to her friends? Don't accuse, but ask her about it...ask her if she knows why he has an issue with you and any of her other friends...
...or better yet, when you are all together and he says or does something rude, why not ask HIM? It'll put him on the spot and then you can all see what kind of guy he really is.
2006-12-03 14:21:55 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I do is nothing. After all it's HER boyfriend. When he's around, don't be. If your with her and he comes over, say later girlfriend and exit stage left. If she asks why you leave when he's around don't lie, tell her the truth, you don't like him. If she presses for the why, tell her you think he is a jerk, you don't need to justify your feelings to her or anyone else. If she is your friend she'll understand, if she's not then I'd be looking for a new friend that doesn't like jerks for boyfriends
2006-12-03 14:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When and if you get a chance to be alone with her tell her your feelings about her boyfriend and then DROP the subject. If you have to be around him from time to time deal with it, you don't have the right to choose the guys your friends go out with whether you like them or not.
2006-12-03 14:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has a good head on her shoulder's like you sound to have then I don't think you'll have anything to worry about. ;o) I"m sure your friend will see the guy for who he really is in a short amount of time and dump him. Just give it some time and see what happens. good luck ;o)
2006-12-03 14:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend dated a controlling, lazy, stoner, disrespectful jack*** for 3.5 years. All you can do is stand by her. I did, and she finally got up the courage (after he got us all evicted) to dump his stupid bum. And now she is with an uber-awesome guy who is giong to marry her, or at least thats what he tells me.
She will figure it out on her own. Just be there for her. Of course, if things seem like they are becoming abusive, please get her help!! And just remind her everyday that you love her.
2006-12-03 14:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by kissamoose217 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just limit my time around them, and hope she soon sees him for what he is.
Don't say anything about how you feel--it will surely make her resent you. But it will become clear to her why you are avoiding her in time, and if she is smart, she will dump him.
HOWEVER--if you see anything abusive in his behavior, you should either tell her folks, or someone she trusts.
Good luck--it's very hard to see good friends do things that are bad for them!
2006-12-03 14:22:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is because he's intimidated by the fact that you know her better than he does and that your are still closer to her than he is, and there for he has to show aggression in order to prove that he is in control of his territory.
Before informing him or her about it you should try gaining his trust. And that way he won't be threatened by your presence.
2006-12-03 14:31:12 · answer #9 · answered by Nighttrotter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it and let her make her own decisions. If she is smart she will realize it on her own. If you talk trash about him, it will only make you look bad, and she will only think you are jealous.
2006-12-03 14:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋