omg..help please?

Question

ok so theres this guy and i have liked him on and off since the summer of my 8th grade year going into 9th grade i am now in 10th grade and i have a bf when i liked him so i didnt like him for long at allthen one of my best friends starts to like him a few days after i liked him (no one knew that i liked him) i dated my bf for a year and 1 months we broke up this past august and they were still going out ( my best friend and this kid) they dated for 8 months he said that he liked this other girl when he didnt he just hadnt liked my friend for the past 2 mos of thier dating (they broke up 3 days ago) and i was talking to him online and he told me that he liked me that day i saw him (he was a new kid) and when i saw him and liked him too and now we are dating since yesterday and i really want to date him cause i really like him but i dont cause i dont want to lose my best friend (she likes someone else now too) and i just dont know what to do or when would be the right time to tell her

Answer 1

Im sorry...

I could not answer your question b/c my eyes started to bleed...

and my brain started to hurt really bad... b/c there were too many "likes" in your question.

Answer 2

High school drama - you realize that was the world's longest sentence, right?

You kids just live for the drama and the gossip and the tension and the conflict. If you don't want it in your life then stop creating it and obsessing over every little move by every player in the normal but annoying world of teenage puppy love and immature "romance".

3 months from now you won't remember a single detail - just learn how to behave with integrity and don't get knocked up are the rules for girls your age.

Answer 3

Sounds like somewhat of a thorny situation you've got there. You shouldn't wait to tell her. If you let her in on the timeline of things, she should understand, but that's not a guarantee. You need to negotiate with her to let her in on what you're feeling and the turmoil it's causing you over this guy. You've liked this guy for a while and no one ever knew, so in retrospect, the same thing has already been done to you, save for the fact that no one ever knew of your feelings.

Talk to your best friend. Make sure she's totally cool with the fact that you two are dating, and make sure to follow up with her on that afterwards. Don't neglect her: it'll hit especially hard. Sometimes when situations like this arise, the person in your situation has a tendency to ignore their friends. You should be able to do as you please with your love life, but remember one thing: boys will come and go, friends are next to forever.

Take care!

Answer 4

i see ur delema. i have the same problem, except i am in the situation of ur friend. she still probably likes the guy u like. but, the fact that she likes sumone else helps. if she was rele ur friend she would be happy for u. if u guys have liked eachother since u first met, then there has to be sumthign special. if ur friend does not understand that then, ask her what she would do. she would probably date the guy 2. dont worry about it. just tell her and im sure she would understand. i did not know that my friend liked the guy that i liked also. and he likes her. i was upset for a while, but i got over it bc there is another guy i like. she cant stay mad at u for being happy.

Answer 5

Just ask her if it would bother her if you dated her ex. I had a friend who dated a boy for a pretty long time, but they ended up breaking up. I told her I liked him and that he liked me, and then a few days later I asked if she was over him. She said yes, so I asked her if she would get angry if one of her friends dated him, and she was so happy for me, because she knew I was talking about myself. I ended up dating him and everything was fine. Just talk to her about it, and explain that you liked him wayyyy before she did.

Answer 6

you nasty for pulling that move good thing you asked about this cause I'm just going to tell you true blue thats grimmey as hell never date anyone your friend has dated no matter who liked who first that aint no true friend you should tell her now right when you get done reading this and let her know you are sorry and you realize you were bogus as hell and you gotta break up
with him befor you even talk to her ugh nasty!!!!( hahahaha)


and its not about if shes cool with it, its about having respect for yourself and getting respect he probaly thinking s$%t i done got with her and her friend think about it from everyones point of view and whats right and wrong, Remeber:always be such a f$cking lady!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

well, sweetie, i've lost friends over guys so here's my advice to you, you need to talk to her and see if she even still cares about this guy. i wouldnt tell her yet that your dating him, but find out if she still likes him at all and then ask her if she would mind if you dated him. if she gives you the ok, then go try to be happy. if she doesnt want you to date him, then youll probably have to choose between him or her. and even if she says its ok, are you going to feel uncomfortable if you all are hanging out together knowing that they were together?

Answer 8

Well.
You have to follow ur heart..
Her being ur freind should exept that..
Just tell her in person..
wenn ur alone and get right to the point u dont need to stall.
If she doesnt take it well...
then ur going to have to accept that causee she really doesnt care how u feel.

Answer 9

You guys are only in tenth grade, this isnt the dealbreaker that will seal your fate forever, it might make her mad now but its not like they were married with kids, they/you are tenth graders!! Go ahead and date him, she will find another guy and be over this one in no time....

Answer 10

there's no easy way out of that one....teenage years suck...but if you truly want to keep your best friend...you should ask her first how she would feel about you dating her ex. i know lots of kids trade bfs and gfs in hs.