im in the 10th grade and everytime i hang with the boys they alsways tell me their going to "rape me" or "one day im going to hang out with them and end up not being a virgin anymore." some of them walk down the halls and call me their baby mama. my ex said that he was going to malest me. And one boy called me at 12 o'clock in the morning and asked me what i had on!
what should i do♥
2006-12-03 06:08:08 · 26 answers · asked by ♥la chica♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont want to be a snitch! i do like some comments but i just want to tell them to stop because its annoying. and when i tell them they just keep doing it!
2006-12-03 06:15:06 · update #1
I believe that guys at this age for the most part are immature. If only one guy was saying these things I'd try to explain: that this sort of talk makes you uncomfortable. But the fact that so many boys talk to you this way makes me wonder if you are sending out mixed messages.
Quite simply if you find these comments unacceptable ( which you should!) tell them, and if they keep it up, find a new group
to hang out with.
It sounds like the find you very attractive but you should surround yourself with people who RESPECT you.
At this point I don't feel it's fair to inform a counsellor because of your own words,"you still hang out with them" by choice no one is forcing you to. If you do make it clear you don't like these comments or if you feel unsafe and threatened in any way, Please confide in you Teacher, Counsellor or Principal
2006-12-03 06:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing that goes for everything not just this, at first comments like that start off as a joke, if you flow with it they are gonna think you like it, when the moment comes that unfortunately youre alone with one of them, they are going to assume they can do what they want, you saying no to them will be just you being shy. So first of all, DON"T flow with them, make it clear you are NOT ok with those kind of comments or actions, if it continues then I dont know what you are doing still keeping contact with them, they are obiously NOT friends, and if you feel treathened in any way you definitely need to tell someone, and I don't meen your best friend, I mean like a teacher, counselor, principal, police, parents. If they dont get scared straight right now, those boys are not going to grow up to anything good, so think about it, your actions can be the ones that put a stop to them now, and prevent something bad happening to you or any girl they come across after you.
2006-12-03 14:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by sgsabs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg that's sexual harassment! What you need to do is stop hanging around those boys and spend time with your girlfriends. If u see one of your guy friends say hi and then immediately go some where else. Obviously they got you confused as a dumb stupid girl who is not strong. Show them who's boss and get them away from u. Not saying you should fight them but notify the principal or their parents or just stay away from them. Never be in a place with them alone.
2006-12-03 14:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by a.j. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who was raped, id punch somebody in the face if they said that to me. These boys think they are all grown up and bada** and they so arent. Dont hang around with people like that, they make you look like a hootchie. Find some friends who have respect for you, and girl, start respecting yourself.
Oh...and if somebody had called my house at 12 when i was in tenth grade, somebody better be in the hospital, cuz my mom would have killed that kid.
2006-12-03 14:20:13 · answer #4 · answered by kissamoose217 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are being sexually harrassed by the sounds of it. You need to tell someone such as a teacher, before it gets out of hand. Boys don't think like girls, you don't realise what some of them may be capable of and no self respecting boy would ever say those things. Please tell someone and make sure you don't end up alone with any of them. HTH.
2006-12-03 14:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is sexual harassment and it is not right. Are you doing anything to make these boys think that you are wanting to do these things with them? Do you carry yourself like you are a slut and are easy? Maybe try to change the way you appear to the boys and talk to a counselor about what they are doing.
2006-12-03 14:15:49 · answer #6 · answered by PHAT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't ever recall a boy telling me he was going to rape me!
That is extremely disrespectful! However, you should probably just chalk it up as very immature boys being stupid!
If you feel like they are serious, or you feel threatened in any way, take it to your guidance councelor at school or talk to your parents. If not, just totally ignore them - they can dream, but you have the power!!
2006-12-03 14:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, boys didn't talk like that in my high school. That's inappropriate behavior. Rape is nothing to joke about. Have you tried making it clear that you don't approve of thier comments? Good Luck.
2006-12-03 14:41:26 · answer #8 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell somebody because it sounds like a threat. Ignore them and call 911. Maybe they are serious or maybe they aare not. But you wouldn't take any chances on this. Talk to someone for help.
2006-12-03 14:13:03 · answer #9 · answered by jigenlo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so hot...they cant help themselves...no seriously, they are just being pigs and you are in 10th grade you dont need to be openin up for these guys just because they are sayin that stuff, its all a bunch of crap to make you feel sexy and get you in the sack.......be careful they might follow through with their "jokes" don't let yourself be vulnerable
2006-12-03 14:12:42 · answer #10 · answered by dramafreak 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋