I want to give my dad a hug and tell him that I love him, but I'm afraid of how he will react or he won't react the way I want him to. He never says I love you and he hasn't given me a hug in years...my dad is 56 and I'm 29. I feel the need to know he loves me and I want to hear it and give him a big hug. I'm feeling low confidence right now and feel comfortable around everyone in my family with the exception of my dad. Its weird because this just started happening. I don't know if I notice how much of a complainer he is because my self-esteem is low right now, but it's putting me down. He can be very grouchy and serious. On the otherhand, it's not like he doesn't love me because last night he called me to let me know a t.v. show I liked was on and he asked me how I was doing this morning. Has my mind created a huge mess that parts of me thinks he's disappointed in me and I'm intimidated by him and our relationship will never be the same again? Should I hug him or what do I do?
2006-12-03 06:07:18 · 19 answers · asked by qrazigirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Definately. My father and I were not close for a long time. I hadn't seen or talked to him for about 2 years. When I did, he was in intensive care after a car accident. He died and I will never have those opportunities. I have many regrets.
2006-12-03 06:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by Juan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of men, especially older ones don't believe in expressing their feelings. This is what I would do. Get your dad alone and just ask him why he does not tell you he loves you, tell him that you feel like you have disappointed him somehow. More than likely he will reassure you that you have not and if the converstion goes good, you will get your hug and I love you at the end. If not, at least you know where you stand. I believe there will be a good turn out.
2006-12-03 14:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by a h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about this & hug him..
I had a good friend who had major issues with his dad, similar to what you are talking about.
Instead of worrying about the past, he just told his dad he loved him & gave him a hug. He remembers the bad past, but he moved on & forgave his dad.
Parts of this sound like my own dad, in terms of grouchy/serious. Maybe something is going on at work, and perhaps, he takes it out on the people he loves, because he knows you'll always be there.
Give him a hug & have a talk.
2006-12-03 14:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by Shanny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hug him and talk to him. He's your dad. Some dads never say 'I love you' because that was the culture they grew up in and it just wasn't done. I'll bet if you ask him, though, he'll tell you of course he does. He may want to hear it from you, too.
About your self-esteem: only you can do something about that. (It's SELF-esteem, so you get to make it whatever you want.)
Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon.
2006-12-03 14:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by Mitch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does you being single have to do with your problem?
You should talk to your dad. You`ll probably be a little nervous at first, but maybe he`ll open up and you`ll be more comfortable. Did something big happen years ago that may have triggered him being distant?
2006-12-03 14:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by SRAWRRR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hug him
he sounds a lot like my dad..lots of people don't know how to express their feelings, but especially true if they are men, they have been told it makes them weak to do so, which isn't true of course.
you can never go wrong by loving your dad or expressing that to him..sometimes that's what it will take because maybe he needs to know how you feel about him
2006-12-03 14:11:28 · answer #6 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
often people are unable to be affection and show love becuase they have not been shown it and. He loves you in his heart, maybe he was not shown much growing up and finds it difficult to do so. talk to him about how you feel, it may well end his ignorance. Your heavenly father loves you more than anyone you are constantly in his thoughts. He sent his son Jesus to die for you a horrible death for you just for you. You are special never doupt it and belive truth.
2006-12-03 14:13:13 · answer #7 · answered by denise g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes, or you'll regret it later on. This is something that very much needs to be done, in my opinion, and I believe it's vitally important. This involves your heart, your soul and your honest feelings.
There's a profound significance in loving your father.
2006-12-03 14:09:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a long sit down talk with him and maybe you will find out why you feel this way and why he does too.
2006-12-03 14:15:29 · answer #9 · answered by slp9209 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hug him n say i love you dad till he says anything to u or aparts from u dear
2006-12-03 14:13:10 · answer #10 · answered by alone l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋