2006-12-03 05:47:34 · 19 answers · asked by mcmfsi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't date! Masturbate!
2006-12-03 06:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by Your Worst Nightmare 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound a little scared of dating. Peope can be jerks at times; however, you have to give them a chance. You also sound kind of shy. I can relate. There is nothing wrong with waiting until you're ready. However, if you really want to meet someone, try attending activities that you enjoy whether it be sporting events, clubs, church functions, or anything else you like. Make small talk with something that you both have in common. When I met my very good friend, he told me that the way to get over being shy is by practicing on people you come into contact on a day-to-day basis - at the grocery store, etc. You both are there for a reason, so you have something in common. I've gotten to the point that I can talk to anyone about anything after a little practice. This way, you'll find someone you can ask out and not feel any pressure. The first date can be casual. Just be yourself. Whatever, you do, be honest but don't be too vulnerable.
2006-12-03 06:13:31 · answer #2 · answered by Murray 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that you've been out with a group that including those of the opposite sex. A date is not much more than that. If you are a female than you have control of any date that you go on, if you're a male than I advise you to be mannered. Head to the local coffee shops first but don't act overly aggressive.
2006-12-03 05:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by supressdesires 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, take it from someone who lost there virginity at 23 .
look at things this way, at least you don't have a million memories of heart ache. (or thats how i saw things)
as a single man, i am happy to have freedom to make my decisions without talkin it over with someone else.
but if your wanting to date, just make certain you look in the safe area's.
number one, do NOT look in a bar, for most people are looking for one night stands there. (unless thats what you want).
go to the libraries , etc. places that make you feel comfortable, and then talk with people of the opposite sex over anything, even if its starting with just sitting beside them at a computer in the library.
oh, and don't tell many people that you havent been on a date, because some will take advantage and manipulate you while they cheat on you.
2006-12-03 06:01:03 · answer #4 · answered by stuart_slider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. Stupid advice, which won't really help you I know. But just so true.
The whole point of the date is to get to known the other person and introduce yourself to him. Don't worry about anything. It's not about beeing perfekt - nobody is.
Ok I have one advice: Don't talk only to be talking. This might be anoying. Talk about things that are interesting to you or are just popping up your mind.
If you feel shy because it's your first day, just tell so, it might easy the situation. But only when you feel like it.
Open your self and try to open your date.
You will just be fine.
Dr.Seuss is wishing you a good time. Cheerio
2006-12-03 05:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by Dr.Seuss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What condoition are you in, are you
1. a non-smoker
2. a non-alcoholic
3. very pretty
4. very fit
5. very intelligent
6. talk to yourself sometimes
7. don't like stupid people
8. love yourself
9. hate chatty people
10. you are shy
11. i tell you when i can think of more
if you possess those conditions above like i have, my adivse is to look for the first love and you will be sure this will be your last love (may be that's why you have never dated before) , once it's confirmed, then you have to be brave and work hard for your fortune.
just think of this way, if you don't get married, when you are about 50+ you will be quite difficult (physically and mentally) to find a partner for your old age life( which it's very important to have one) your parents would probably be "gone" by that time, so relying on your relative is not a very good option, but if you are ok to be alone for the rest of your life, then it's ok to just be yourself, i mean i don't like to getting to know people more by socialising with them (too much of acting) and i am ok to be alone i acutally like it any way, if you need it work for it if you don't then it's fine.
2006-12-03 05:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by lippy19850528 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't missed out on much. Is this advice requested because
- you are going on a date?
- or you want to be more dateable?
2006-12-03 05:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with that, but to resolve the issue I would start going to clubs, bars, pool halls etc. some place where there are alot of people to meet and take some girlfriends (or guy friends whom ever you are more comfortable with), and start mingling... but I don't suggest meeting anyone online.
2006-12-03 05:50:52 · answer #8 · answered by jillifly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to some social events and just start smalltalk to get to know people. Find someone you have in common and start slow like going out for coffee.
2006-12-03 05:49:58 · answer #9 · answered by johnjd_cmu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself out there where guys can meet you, if you desire to date...they aren't going to find you sitting behind your computer monitor, unless you also belong to some dating or social sites...
2006-12-03 05:49:56 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be more confidant in yourself. Guys don't like girls who don't like themselves. And don't worry a guy will come along and sweep you off your feet. Start going out more often, guys can't find you if you sit in your house all day and night. If you see a guy you like, talk to him, don't wait for him to talk to you. Good Luck!!!!
2006-12-03 05:57:38 · answer #11 · answered by PHAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋