how come black men are leaving sistas behind?

Question

okay, for one thing i have nothing wrong with black men dating white women, it's just that i have realized that when i was dating a black man he treated me like poop, but when he went for a white women, he treated he really well! and don't say because he liked her more it wasn't that! second of all, it seems that when you all are dating us you, just care to much about your rep, and it's all about, 'that booty', and i gotta smack and have that! and i am really sick of it! which is why i have realized the fact that white men treat a women better!
any opinion of this?

to dave v, us black women do wash our hair, and second of all our weave is beautifull along with our butts, because there not ugly and flat like a white womens!

Answer 1

this is so true and i don't understand why they date overweight white woman but not black.

Answer 2

Hey sista I am sorry to hear about your situation. I would never choose a white women over a sista. I just dont feel like they can under stand my struggle the same. As for black men treating white women better i think it black men go for white girls because they can treat them any way they want. I think you can be in a bad relationship with a white man just as quick as with a black man. I hope you dont give up on all black men because of one idiot that didnt realize what he had.

Answer 3

I wasn't entirely sure whether I wanted to answer this question because I don't want to offend anyone. I try to see both sides of the question whenever I answer.

I can't tell you from a black man's standpoint, but I think I can give my thoughts from a white woman's standpoint. If I offend anyone, I apologize.

I believe that there are a lot of stereotypes that come to mind when someone thinks of black women in general...a lot when it comes to white chicks too. But the stereotypes that accompany black women are generally those that men try to avoid. Dramatic, loud, overly flamboyant, nosy, pushy, flaunting of certain body parts, etc. I'm not saying that I believe in these stereotypes...I don't. But stereotypes come about for a reason....and they are there. I think that these are the reason for the problem.

As women, we all must break our stereotypes....no matter what color we are. We can be sexy without being slu+$, strong without being b!tches, nice without being a pushover, and we don't need men to support us when we can get what we need on our own. We must show every man that women are not defined by men....and we definitely must show men that the stereotypes are NOT true by not living them.

Again, I do hope I've not offended.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I had to stop messing with black men altogether, cause it is the media and peer pressure that makes them think they can treat us other than the women that we are. Its also a shame how they make us feel that we dont meet up to their standards and we have to portray this skinny, video chick image in order to get some love. You see its the culture and this is not going to ever change until Jesus comes back and as a matter of fact it is going to get worse. So what I did is I totally relocated to a neighborhood where there is hardly any blacks and totally changed my thought pattern and guess what I am doing so much better now and I love it that I dont have to wear those awful name brand things or change who I am to be liked, and I can feel comfortable holding hands walking down the street without being called names or ridiculed

Answer 5

Black men are weak and white grls let them walk all over them, also its a status thing, they have been told since the beginning of time that white is the best so they go for white,Ive never been into black men ,so they can date all the white women they want,i'll stick to my hispanic men

Answer 6

Because black men think of white women as trophies to show off. Its a fashionable thing to sport around with a white woman in front of the other bruthas. If they want to keep their trophy then they have to be good to them. What gets me is how stupid the white women are to think they are more than just a trophy to the black man. They are getting used and are too dumb to know it. For us white men, there is no trophy status for dating black women so when we do date them it is because we care. No fashion statement to be made.

Answer 7

Color doesnt have anything to do with the way that a man acts. Regardless of what color, if he wants to be a dog, he will. If you treat him like dirt and he wants to leave, he will. If the relationship is childish, it will stay that way. If you act loose, he will treat you like it. If you act like a whore, thats all you'll be. If you demand respect, he will give it to you. This is the same for males, females, black, while, asian, ect. All personalities can be the same. It's just like opening a gift on christmas... the wrapping can be different, but the gift will always be the same!

Answer 8

i am not racist when i say this , but the only whitw women with booties i have seen were fat.
sorry but i agree but ... drop the white black issue!
let's talk about how men overall look at all women!

Answer 9

Not true.....Black and White men treat me with respect......its just the men your choosing....
even the rappers I see out from time to time.....I'm treated the same by all......sorry to blow your theory

Answer 10

I am a white male... But the guy was a jerk because he is just a jerk. His color has nothing to do with it...

Answer 11

well,black women...have way to big butts, and they dont wash the hair as often as a white girl, come on we all know that it takes to much time to take out those corn rows and god forbid something happens to your weave...its just plain nasty...not to mention...any girl that can eat more kfc than i can i dont wanna date