we've been together for 6 years but over the past two years have had serious quarells often resulting in him physically subduing me, pushing and pinning me on the ground. we patch up when he laments for his anger and i feel happy in his company again. at that moments i feel very secure with him. however his anger persists often over little things and i feel tired of his rage. met his lovely family and received a lot of affection from them which makes me think that i should continue with him. in the earlier phases of our relationship we faced a lot of opposition from my parents and we withstood them to make this work. reminenses of those days make me feel that we should continue and not let our struggle go waste, but his temper makes me reconsider.
i am lost, how can a man who has loved me the most ever is also capable of unleashing such rude behavior, physical pain and vitriolic temper? am i wasting me life being with him?
2006-12-03 05:43:09 · 10 answers · asked by vasilisa13277 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're not marrying his family, you're thinking of marrying HIM. There are many guys out there and you never said anything positive about him in your question. Caution!
2006-12-03 05:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by nevisgent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he pushes you or pins you down when it's all over call the police. Get the heck away from him fast. He will continue to beat you and it will get worse. I'm speaking from experience. I'll bet he tells you he won't ever hurt you or hit you again? Go to your local shelter for woman against violence. Ask them to share their stories. Some of us don't make it out alive. I have seen it. Why in the world would you allow him to do this to you? Ask yourself that. Love does not push, hit, beat or verbal abuse. You are a battered woman. Seek professional help now. I beg you. You deserve to be treated with repect and not be hit, pushed, etc. GET OUT TODAY. That is not love.
2006-12-03 05:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by Rosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, i think you must be better at the verbal melee than he is.
some men use the physical when they are subdued with the verbal.
women are not good at moving on in "invested" (6 years) relationships. its a decision that will be difficult.
personally, i would move on.
2006-12-03 05:52:26 · answer #3 · answered by Sopwith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to control you and if he is showing this type of behavior before marriage, it will get worse after
yes you are wasting your life with him
get some self respect and move on
2006-12-03 05:52:18 · answer #4 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think u should marry him because it will get worse if yall get married. just continue being with him as his girlfriend until yall relationship get better. because it u marry him now and it gets worse then u will stuck going through three months of divorce case.
2006-12-03 05:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by ki-ki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, yes you are wasting your time with him.
you have to ask yourself one question "what am i worth?"
if your worth happiness, then do what makes you happy. leave him, because he is not treating you with what your worth.
And remember, at the end of this life, your going to be faced with this question to your self
did i love my life ? or despise it?
2006-12-03 05:48:21 · answer #6 · answered by stuart_slider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are waisting your time and energy on this guy.....don't you think he has sucked enough life out of you??? It will only get worse once your Married.....don't do it......get out now....look at it as you'll be saving your own life....
Do not Marry this guy.....get out of this relationship all together....
2006-12-03 05:48:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's been treating you like this for 6 years, sweetie, you should have ditched him loooong ago...
2006-12-03 05:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wasting your life with him. If you choose to marry him, please don't make babies and subject innocent children to your chaotic, violent life. Your parents opposed him for very good reasons.
2006-12-03 05:47:38 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it looks like you and your man need to talk!!
2006-12-03 05:47:21 · answer #10 · answered by hmw95 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋