Do any other females out there wear a size 9-12?

Question

I am 15 and I am 5'8 and 145 pounds. I have a very large frame so if I lose any weight I looke horrible. I am also apple shaped.. lol. I love myself, just not when my best-friend who is a size 2 and is taller tells me Im fat. Its degrading to go shopping wiht her and have her jsut sigh at me. I've tried to explain to her that it is unhealthy for me to be otherwise but she calims I am making excuses for myself. I also love Avocados but I cant even eat that in front of her; she feels there are too many calories. I only have one a week. I've tried explaining, I ever got to the point where I had her put her hands around my ribcage jsut to feel its immense size which is around three times the size of hers. What can I do?

Yes I do have large hands and wear a size 11 shoe. I never had a problem with it, I acutally used to brag about me big feet (weird right?). She only wears a size 7 and is very petite. She has her share ofinsecurities but im not willing to help if shes going to drag me down too. Thanks.

Oh i eat well. I have to. I have Hypoglycemia and am VERY careful about balancing all my foods and avoiding that with a high GI. I Dont eat anything bleached and have become quite a broccolli and cauliflower fanatic.

Answer 1

Get a different friend!! This one is not a very good friend for telling you that you are fat. The important thing is that you are happy with yourself. If you feel like you need to lose a few pounds, start exercising. You are still very young and in school (hopefully!!) so join up for volleyball or basketball or something else physical your school offers. If you don't want to do that, go rollerblading or swimming. Just don't let your friend bother you. Friends are supposed to be there for you and make you feel good, not fat.

Answer 2

Well, I'm a size 6-8 on top and a size 8-10 on the bottom, I think it's unfair for your friend to call you fat just because she is a size 2. This is just a guess, but I think maybe she says that to feel superior to you.... you may have traits that she feels envious of, such as a pretty face or great personality, that she doesn't feel she can match up to. So she uses the fact that she is thinner than you to make herself feel better. People come in all different shapes and sizes and she should respect that.

Although I don't have a large frame, I could never be a size 2 on my hips, because I have wide hip bones, which stick out if I go under a size 6. I know where you are coming from.

I think you need to tell your friend enough is enough or you would be better off finding a new friend.

Good luck : )

Answer 3

I 12

Answer 4

Tell your friend she is just jealous because she is not 5'8. And just because she is a size 2 doesnt mean you should. To me it sounds like she is insecure about her own body and degrading yours to make her feel better, and you incourage her by letting her believe that you agree size 2 is better. Now i am a 2-4 depending if i work out, but i am very short 5'1 and i can tell you i have wished i was tall and lanky a time or two, that is what she feels. You are tall, have long legs and have a great weight for your height. be happy...you dont have to ask your tall friend to get your stuff down,when your boyfriend forgets your short puts them up to high...jk...no i'm not.

Answer 5

I understand where you are coming from. It is so annoying when you go shopping with your friends and they are thinner then you. Matter of a fact my bestfriend is 5'7 and she wears a size 0 and she wears an x-small top. I dont like standing next to her when she is wearing something form fitting because if she turns to her side she disapears. You arent a heavy at all and everyones bodies are made differently. Just show her how your rips because you arent big this is the way your body was made. I am sure you also have wider hands (I do to but not manly like) and wear larger shoe sizes. It goes with the rest of your body.

Answer 6

If you are happy with your weight, then don't change anything or listen to your best friend. You aren't even obese or overweight for your height and frame.

make sure you don't "diet"!!!!! you will lose weight and regain more after you're done.

If you do want to lose weight, stick to slowly and gradually eating healthier foods and just be a little more active on your side. If you reduce a couple hundred calories a day (maybe as little as a bag of cookies or chips) and instead replace it with some carrot sticks with no ranch, you will still get your snack, but maybe 100 less calories every day. Every little thing will add up slowly!

If you want to eat generally healthy, go for whole grain foods (100% whole grain is best-- check the ingredient list) instead of refined grains (white rice, white noodles, almost anything that comes in a box).

Also eat as many vegetables as you can stomach (that you like). They are very inexpensive, full of nutrients, and have very, very few calories. Go for extra servings of vegetables and that might cause you to be a little less hungry for other foods that have much less nutrient-density in them.

One of your goals might be to eat foods that fill you up more and for longer (whole grains), and also give you more nutrients (whole grains and vegetables), with less calories (both whole grains and vegetables) and also that you like (eat what tastes good to you in these catagories.

Other great foods are lean meats (round or sirloin cuts for steaks, skinless chicken breasts, etc). Limit added salts, sugars, fats, and even condiments if you can.

Some great healthy snacks known to help you lose weight (you won't see instant results)-- peanuts and peanut butter (in small to moderate amounts) and yogurt.

Start slowly with one or two things and it'll be easier to you.

My personal weight story: at 5' 8 1/2" (small frame) my senior year in high school, I went from 180 pounds to 135 pounds and gained about 12 pounds after bodybuilding intensely for 2 years. This is over the course of about 4 years. As a side note, I exercised very hard and ate well (although I think the exercise helped lose weight MUCH more than the eating well).

Also, some people are just inclined to be obese. I watched a video in my nutrition class of a guy who was over 250 pounds and short, and he had run over 300 triathalons... I'm an avid runner and bodybuilder and the exercise thing worked for me...
But after seeing that video, I realize that everyone's body is different and we can't discriminate against bigger people and it does NOT mean that they lack self-discipline and/or control.

Good luck and remember... the most important thing is for you to be happy! It just sucks that a lot of people will judge you for being bigger. I'm trying not to be one of those people who judges anymore.

ps. this is just the surface when it comes to nutrition-- just what popped into my head... there's a ton more of great info.

Answer 7

Honey you need to find a new best friend!! One who will accept you for who you are, and not try to change you into someone you are not.. I am your size and I always have been. When I was in high school I was one of the bigger girls, but you have to understand that it's not "fat" You are a genetically big boned person. I am actually one of the smallest people in my family.. As far as weight and height go.
Chances are your friend is jealous of you..
Find a new friend fast!
Good Luck

Answer 8

Girly, you are perfect the way you are. Don't try to live your life by other people's standards. That just sets you up for all kinds of disappointment and dissatisfaction in your own life. When your "friend" butts in, kindly tell her that you are happy with the way you are and please keep her judgemental comments to herself because you don't appreciate it. Eat whatever you want whenever you want. It's your life and if you are truly unhappy about anything in your life THEN you make a change. Don't allow others to decide things for you or you lose yourself. Be yourself. Peace to you.

Answer 9

5'8 145 sounds kinda perfect...size 9-12 is perfect. size 2 can be kinda nasty and disgusting... especially since she is even taller than 5'8...she really has insecurities and hates that u will get more attention from guys...whereas with her guys she attracts may be the kind who will ONLY like her at a size 2...kinda sad.

Answer 10

make your personality shine above whatever ppl say. If you feel good, look good and are in good health, why worry about what some skinny girl tells you? Just because waifs were considered fashionable till recently, doesn't mean it's healthy. don't explain yourself, just love yourself, and if she can't see past that, you might be better off without "friends" like those. Just try and keep being healthy, that's all.