ok so i started messaging this guy that i had dated in high school. i hadnt seen him in like 10years. so we talked and messaged daily, exchanged pictures. he told me all the time that he wanted me, and that he wished we could be together. we live like 20 hours apart. so i decided to go and see him. i drove down there and saw him like 3 times over the course of the weekend. well he was supposed to come see me the night before i left. he didnt. i didnt hear from him for 3 days. so i got mad and sent him some really nasty emails. well he emailed me back and said that he had been in a wreck and was in the hospital for 2 days. i tried to apologize, but nothing. i havent talked to him since. it has been about 3 weeks. in my head i am thinking if he cared, he would be talking to me.. or maybe he got what he wanted from me now that he didnt get when we where in school, and that was it. i dont know what to think? help.. i just think if i guy just wants sex, tell the girl that in the beginning..
2006-12-03 05:18:40 · 5 answers · asked by annie b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give him the benefit of the doubt first and then E-Mail him and ask if that is all he really wanted.When he replies if he says yes then give him a large piece of your mind!
2006-12-03 05:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you waited 10 years, you can wait a bit longer. No matter the misunderstanding, he will contact you again if he is sincerely interested. Try not to overcommunicate the issue. It could come across as obsessive. If he was really in a car accident, he probably has a lot to deal with right now. He knows you're sorry for the miscommunication and you know he has been hospitalized. You've done all you can do and the truth is, he may just not be interested anymore and you can't change that. You had a life before this rendevous so try not to let it consume your thoughts :) If he is still interested, he will eventually contact you again. If not, you can still go on with your life and meet someone new. Good luck!
2006-12-03 13:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jen C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes its hard to admit to or accept what we dont wan to be true but I think you already know how this all went and ends! Also just look at it like what are you really missing anyways? You know how hard a relationship would be that far away, and people change alot in ten years, You can do long distance relationships only for people really in love and plan to get married and move together eventually not when its just up in the air I dont think, sounds like you just want a relationship in general and i'm sure ther are a lot of available people close by to start w/someone fresh and new that usually dont come to light until you stop looking it sucks I know, also the hospital story I bet is total crap If I were you dont e mail him again and dont answer any dont let yourself be disrespected any further now that you are aware so ok he got away w/what he did so shame on him and in the future know that sex is usually what guys want wether they tell you or not and when you do it know and be ok w/it or dont Good Luck Kim
2006-12-03 13:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like if he really cared that he would have called you by now. You are the one making all the effort here-if a guy likes you, he will let you know. And yes, unfortunately, guys often do this once they get sex....not that that is right or makes you a bad person. Girls do it too....I wouldn't wait around anymore for him; life's too short and you've wasted enough time already.
2006-12-03 13:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by baylor88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow
send him another e-mail
and apologize again
he probably hasn't talked to you
because of those nasty e-mails.
he probably wasn't leading you on.
2006-12-03 13:22:34 · answer #5 · answered by Paige 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋