I've known this guy for a little over a year. Met him thru friends. Much to my dismay I ended becoming the good "Girl Friend". A status which I loathe, but it always seems to happen. I'm really attracted to him. He's a great person and I don't want to do something really low to show how him how I feel. I realize there will be some putting my feelings out there and hoping for the best, but I just can't figure out how to go about it.
2006-12-03 05:17:31 · 12 answers · asked by BonnieBlackLass 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To clarify.... I don't want to add sex into the mix until after we've establish feelings. That would be opening up a whole new can of worms. And do you really want to do that in this instance?
2006-12-03 05:21:04 · update #1
You don't have to do anything low. Date some one else. It raises your value to him because you've made yourself a scarce commodity. Remember the RM: Rare and Mysterious hooks the guy. You want to elicit a touch of jealousy from him. His reactions are a helpful sign. Ignore him for a bit. It always seems to make them impulsive.
2006-12-03 05:28:00 · answer #1 · answered by Em E 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My frestman year of college, my best friend was really into this guy she was friends with. She laid her feelings out there and told him that no matter what, she didnt' want to lose his friendship, but had to tell him how she felt. To her dismay, he told her he didn't feel the same way about her and all there was there was a good friendship. He dated a few other girls. She accepted that and within two years, they were dating and were married after she graduated college.
My husband is my best friend. There is a definate value to a marriage when the two people are friends first. I encourage you to put your feelings out there, but remember you may have to wait and see what happens. It may work out, it may not. In the meantime, don't end your life and not accept dates.
2006-12-03 13:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you loathe being the good "Girl Friend". I love it and it totally works to my advantage. I think you should put your feelings out there because if you don't you both will lose out. Hope for the best, but be prepared for the outcome you don't want.
2006-12-03 13:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by justasking 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By the sounds of your dilemma, you are playing it a little too cool. Try flirting a little bit. What do you have to lose? We all do it and risk rejection, but oh, when it's reciprocated you forget all about the other ones!
2006-12-03 13:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel but youd have to ask your self is it worth your friendship taht you have right now? ask friends who are close to him that you trust to keep it confedental and ask them very casually if he like you taht way it saves you pain,publicly.Oryou can jsut tell him straight have no regrets Hakuna Matata !!!
2006-12-03 13:23:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
show him how much you like him talk to him show him how good it cooed be shear him with her 3 in bed is barter then 2 if he is the man the to stock 2 shelves
2006-12-03 13:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest and to the point about it with him..if he's not interested you still have a friend right?
2006-12-03 13:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Put on some tight capris and shake your bootay at him(-;
2006-12-03 13:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Simple, invite him for dinner and propose him
2006-12-03 13:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by parthan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Invite him over. When he arrives, have nothing on but edible undies.
2006-12-03 13:23:24 · answer #10 · answered by know_it_all_NOT 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋