Problems at home!! my mom got remarried. my step sisters bug me alot. one is graduating this year so shes ok?

Question

but the other... well she is sorta a problem child. she is over weight and is really laxy she is making it seems like she is so helpless when really she is a lazzy bum! she went to camp to try and change herself but now she is still wearing the same old stupid boy cloths. also she is not that great of a student. so, my mom is always mad because shes off screwing up something which makes my step dad (rene) mad because my mom is yelling about how caroline (the step sis) is bad and then they get in a fight. also my reall dad is on the side and hes a bad person/father but when i am with him he makes it seem like hes really great even though i know hes not but i just cant help thinking hes a good dad (i KNOW hes not) Also my blood related sis and I used to be rEALLY close and now she is a bi t ch. Sometimes I feel far away form the family and that caroline is taking my mom away. I just wish that things were like they used to be with just my mom, my sis, and me. wht do i do?????

Answer 1

I don't have a really great answer for you but I am sorry about your situation. My parents divorced and my mom is now engaged to this guy who has 2 kids who are annoying as F***!!!!! and I am SO GLAD I don't even live in the same city as them anymore.

I am sorry your parents are fighting over your step sis but there is nothing you can do about that right now. They should not be fighting in front of you. Your dad is just trying to make up for what has happened in the past and trying to put together a good relationship between you and him. Give him a chance. No one is perfect and even though he is not a great dad he is YOUR Dad and it is OK to love him and want to be around him sometimes even if he's not the greatest always. He's part of your family and not part of this circus you seem to have at home. Being with him is kind of a break from getting away from your problems with your Mom/sister.

Your sister being a b**** is probably just growing pains, she is probably a teen right now and going through lots of changes, not much you can probably do about that.

I think you should try to talk to your mom, maybe sometime when it is just the two of you in the car or some time when just the two of you are home. I think she wants to know if you are feeling this way. Obviously things can't just go back to the way they used to be but maybe she can start paying more attention to you so you can feel like you still have a mom and like your step sis is not taking her away. I really do think your mom would want to know if you felt like your step sis was taking that away, but she isn't going to know unless you tell her.

Good luck and realize that this situation is only temporary!!! as soon as you turn 18 you will have a plethora of options. (Moving out, going to college, etc.) You can bear down for just the 5 or so years you have left in this situation.

Answer 2

While its hard to keep up with all the changes going on in your house. I would remember that everyone is adjusting to changes, perhaps Caroline needs someone to try and relate to, it is clear she's having adjusting issues if not to the marriage but to growing up...find something you all have in common or something you can do together to help each other. Like helping her dress better or with school, and maybe find something she's good at to help you - even if you don't need the help. By bringing out the best in each other maybe that will help bring some peace to the house. Tell your mother your concerns about losing her & that you want to help make things better..maybe she has some suggestions. I would also think about writing your older sister a nice note, telling her you miss the happier times together and you hate you aren't as close. Sometimes we lose site of things that were important when we grow up...we don't mean to but we get self-involved. As for your father, what little time he spends with you I'm sure he tries to make the best of.....parents are just people too and maybe if you just remember that they have Flaws you can appreciate each person in/outside of the house for the good they bring, and let them know that it hurts you when they disappoint you, or you like when you feel good.

Albert Einstein once said ""The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing."

Be the first person to make a difference....your family might be better for it...and you one step towards maturity & compassion.

Answer 3

You need to talk to your mom and stepdad about how you feel in a mature way. You can't just say that you hate them or think they are lazy. It's very hard to have a blended family, and part of dealing with that is open communication. Your biodad cannot help much since he is not a member of the household, and sometimes involving another parent complicates issues. Just try having a mature, open conversation and tell them what you would like to be different.

Answer 4

i really don't have the answer for you, however i think you need to just clarm down and try very hard to adjust to the situation. have you truly given every one a chance. talk with your mom and tell her you need some personal time with her just you two. once she start giving you your own time, you will be okay. you must keep a good relationship with your mom. you are all she really have if something should happen, you need to be stronger for your mom. there are things she is not going to see that you will, that is why you need to stay close to your mom. keep that connection tight because if you tell her something she will listen to you if you two get alone good. always stay close to your mom, you see i keep repeating, stay close to your mom. you want her to believe you over your step-dad this will only happen if you and your mom is on good term. meanwhile chill out and say very little and keep your eyes and ears open. keep all the negative stuff in your head, try not to let you right hand know what your left hand is thinking. things will be okay if you stay cool and learn more of what you are really dealing with my girl.

Answer 5

I sympathize along with your desire to have a newborn yet this could be a bad, undesirable undesirable concept! Legally: no longer purely can your chum get fired if caught, in maximum places this could be a criminal. and you're an adjunct. except you choose to have a toddler in reformatory, ignore it. Biologically: there's a reason in vitro fertilization is a low yield proposition: The situations do no longer choose impregnation. it quite is the reason it oftentimes takes numerous tries. enable's settle for it - the "accepted" way of fertilization oftentimes takes a various tries (on time-honored). Ethically: people who donate sperm achieve this under very strict situations and under the coverage that their genetic textile would be used wisely. they have a ideal to have that expectation fulfilled. And what might you tell your newborn? That they have been the fabricated from a criminal offense? Please re-evaluate.

Answer 6

Aww, its a horrible situation. Work hard - study hard and try to avoid any conflict. Leave home as soon as you can and get on your own two feet. Your mum should realise that whilst she's got to try looking after step daughters too, that you need some time and attention. If its any consolation - its no easier as you get older.