I am not generally a jealous person, in fact I am usually very comfortable with myself. Or at least comfortable enoughto feel secure in my relationships....Why then, am I having an issue lately feeling extreme jealousy towards not only my boyfriend's ex.....but also his co-workers, kids, what is wrong with me? Could it just be a result of my pregnancy, or should I be a bit more concerned than that??
2006-12-03 04:45:15 · 6 answers · asked by stefanie s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Total hormones. You feel vulnerable that you are pregnant. You are in a position where now you sort of need to be taken care of ...emotionally. Your life is going to change dramatically and change is inevitable. Right now you have had to change some of what you do to accommodate a growing baby. He probably hasn't had to change that much because he can't obviously carry a child. It doesn't mean he loves you any less. He also may be struggling with the change issue and how it might affect his life. Try to make sure you work on making yourself feel better every day.
You can never guarantee anything in life...even if you are married. Life never offers you the complete guarantee that everything is going to be okay. I don't know what he does to make you feel jealous so I can only assume that it is you. If he is engaging in activities that cause you to feel jealous then you have a perfect right to "calmly" address how you feel. Don't point fingers at him but talk to him from your feelings "when you call your ex on the phone it makes me feel sad that you won't spend that time with me" that kind of thing. Pressure and yelling never work over the long term.
2006-12-03 04:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by AnswerGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure part of it is your pregnancy intesifying these feelings. Try to distinguish if something really is bothering you about these indviduals or is it just a feeling, have they done anything, or are you just not comfortable with them yet. You also might just be lacking some one on one attention with boyfriend. He may be busy with kids which probably intells the ex a little and you feel as your left out. If you decide that might be it, talk to him see if you can at least set time aside each week to be just the two of you.
2006-12-03 12:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by a h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pregnancy might be it if your even jealous towards his kids, because normally however jealous people get there not jealous of the other persons kids, do you to have kids together or are they from the ex? Maybe that also has something to do with it. Try talking to him about this feelings, and if your not comfortable with that try a counseler that much jealous is not healthy for you or the baby your carrying.
2006-12-03 12:52:26 · answer #3 · answered by Sublimebaby69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your pregnant, I would say that is the problem. Don't worry honey, if you are normally a confident person then you have nothing to worry about. Your man loves you and is having a baby with you. Having a baby is supposed to be one of the happiest times in a woman's life, don't let that be ruined by jealousy.
2006-12-03 12:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by PHAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy hormones make women do funny things. When my wife was preggers,she ate the weirdest stuff,and would get irate about certain things,but returned to normal after giving birth.
2006-12-03 12:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If jealousy isn't your norm, then I'd betcha the hormones are the major culprit. Thankfully, when you have the baby that issue will return to 'normal'
2006-12-03 12:49:48 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋