why does my boyfriend always like to bring me down ???? Everyone tells me to leave him but i cant cuz i love him.i dont know what to do.....
2006-12-03 04:42:37 · 20 answers · asked by selinamcnatt@yahoo.com 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's trying to bring you down to his level. Find a guy who's on your level.
2006-12-03 04:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first off if he makes you feel bad about yourself you don't need that, you can do better no girl needs that. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and every one tells me to leave him to but I can't I love him to much. He doesn't make me feel bad or anything we just dont have jobs right now so he can't suport me. I don't think any girl deserves to be put down by any man or guy. I was in an abusive relationship for 8 months and I was put in ICU for a week. You do not need that and it will start with putting you down and it will lead to other things most of the time. It is your call in the end if you want to break up with him or not, nobodys choice but yours. You just need to really sit down and think about if he makes you more happy then hurting you. Weigh out your feelings about him and ask people closer to you what they think. If the people that know you the best and know him say you need to leave him well then the chances are you need to get out of that now. I hope I have helped you some what if you have any questions email me ok milkbone815@yahoo.com I'll be more than happy to talk to you more about this.
2006-12-03 12:51:30 · answer #2 · answered by Brooklyn Mae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You certainly DON'T love him, you only think you do. He brings you down because he definitely DOESN'T love you. Why do you want to submit yourself to this treatment? Before you can love someone else, you need to love yourself. Is this really the way you want to live? As time goes by, he will most likely begin to hit you - do you think you'll like that? Come on - you know you don't deserve this!! You can do so much better and be so happy - give it a try. Leave him and get on with a normal life.
2006-12-03 12:49:58 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because you have it more together then he does and he's jealous. Do as every ones telling you and dump the guy and find someone that wants you for you not someone that brings you down all the time. Remember this, sometimes others can see someone for who they really are as the others are seeing this guy and since you feel you love him you are not seeing these things the others are.
2006-12-03 12:48:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, life is too precious to waste it trying to build yourself up after the words of someone you "love" bring you down. I know you love him, but it's an unhealthy love and not only are there men out there who are supportive and great, but YOU DESERVE ONE OF THOSE MEN!! If a relationship doesn't make you feel better about yourself day by day, then it's time to cut your losses and get on with your life. Love is something wonderful and the two parties involved should both feel cherished and valued. Your boyfriend apparently doesn't value you (much less himself) or he wouldn't be trying to make him feel better about himself by making you feel worse about you. One other thing you should consider....in many instances, relationships that start out like yours is now will only get worse....verbal abuse, mental abuse and possibly even physical abuse. I don't know you, but you are a valuable human being and you deserve someone who will see the greatness in you and always pick you up. :-)
2006-12-03 12:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by Maggie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he makes you feel this way, then you're not in love. You're just addicted to him. And like any addiction, you need to let him go.
You need someone who is going to respect you.
I used to be in a similar relationship, and looking back, our break up was the best thing that ever happened to me. I'm engaged now to a guy who will do anything for me. If I hadn't gotten over the ex, it never would have happened.
Leave him and you'll give yourself the chance to find someone so much better. Someone who can give you the respect you deserve and value you like he should.
2006-12-03 12:47:29 · answer #6 · answered by Galoshes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you love him sometimes when you love someone enough you need to let them go and move on with your life! Why would you stay with a guy that treats your like crap! Wake up hon and smell the coffee!! You can find a decent guy that will treat you much better than that loser your dating now. Hes not good for you! Move on!
2006-12-03 12:46:21 · answer #7 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young and it doesn't sound like you have a lot of self-esteem. You deserve to be treated with love and respect.
If your boyfriend needs to "put you down" all the time he has no respect for you - he has "problems" of his own.
Please don't stay in a relationship with someone who thinks so little of you. There are plenty of other guys out there who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. You don't need to "settle" for someone who is only going to "beat you down" and destroy what little "self-respect" you have!
You know what to do, dump him! Good luck.
2006-12-03 12:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels bad about himself so he wants you to feel the same. He thinks he has control over you. Sweetheart that can't be love. You may love him but seriously, you can find someone who will love you in return and will treat you great! Leave this guy!
2006-12-03 12:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by tia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reverse the role. Bring him down and let him know how it feels. You should get a better idea then what you need to do depending on his reaction.
2006-12-03 12:47:29 · answer #10 · answered by TCay G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋