Ok....my boyfriend and i have been together for going on three years, he and his technically still legal wife have been separated for close to four...my boyfriend has filled out the divorce papers, but not filed them yet(he says he scared of child support payments...they had 4 children together) He says he wants to be with me, I mean he and I have 2 biological children together, and one on the way, plus we have a house together, bank accounts, cars etc....What I want to know is should I just be patient a little bit longer,so that he can do it on his own?? or should I tell him he needs to file now!!!!!Before he pushes me away? I think he obviously wants to be with me(we have house, finances,and both of our families(parents,etc) all accept our relationship, and his mother just adores me, and my family loves him, too. I just don't know what to do here......any and all (serious) advice would be greatly appreciated!!Thanks!
2006-12-03 04:40:41 · 18 answers · asked by stefanie s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To clarify a little bit....YES, he has been giving $ for the kids, and we take them whenever we are given the chance to.
2006-12-04 11:28:07 · update #1
Well for one, if he really loves you he should file for divorce. Because it's not only hurting you it's hurting his children from his ex. Because the money he gives them if for stuff kids need . ANd of course he is their father and he doesn't want to becaome a deadbeat Dad does he?. SO tell him to flie for the divorce because with both of your salaries there shouldn't be anything to worry about child support. Tell him he does it or out he goes. MAybe he wants both of you no telling. But a good swift kick in the pants is what he might need to get started. SO stand behind him and kick.
2006-12-03 04:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the asking him to file for the divorce is long over due. I mean you have 2 almost three children from the guy and your questioning whether you should push him to file for the divorce. To begin with didn't you care that this guy is afraid of having to pay child support for the 4 kids he has with his wife? Didn't that tell you something about him? The guy doesn't want to be responsible but yet you and his wife are allowing him to be. I'm surprised his wife hasn't filed for a divorce just to stick him with the child support for what he's doing to her and the kids. You should either tell him to file now or your leaving and you file for child support for the kids you have together.
2006-12-03 04:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW no wonder hes scared of child support payments. Six kids! I would be scared of child support payments too. Well I dont see what the problem is. Tell him to get a divorce and to step up and be a man he has 4 other kids he needs to support he has to face those child support payments somtime. Rather sooner than later.
2006-12-03 04:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something else is going on. The fact that they are still married doesn't matter. I have a friend in Cali that is legally seperated from his wife, and the fact that he is no longer in the home she filed for child support, and they garnish his wages. So if she isn't filing maybe he is secretly giving her money, or making promises to her. You need to find out what's going on.
2006-12-03 04:50:17 · answer #4 · answered by melly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you telling us that he has not supported his kids for 3 years.?What are your kids going to do if you break up with him?What is with this guy? He sure enjoys making babies but that is it for him.He is relieing on our tax dollars to care for his fun.He is a first class jerk.Does he even see his children?Well to answer your question.I have been that man except I took care of my children.He ain't gonna get a divorce.He is a coward.He wants everything handed to him.He is self centered and selfish.Get the hell out.You are to good for him.If he truly TRULY loved you he would have divorced a long time ago. Good luck You can & will do much much better.
2006-12-03 05:13:04 · answer #5 · answered by I'm Jerry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to file now. He's scared of child support payments? Well guess what they are his kids and he helped make them so he needs to get off his lazy *** and help support them. What if it was you on the other end of things and he's just waiting around because he didn't want to help support your kids. So don't just think of it as should I be waiting. What about, should those kids be waiting on support from their father.
2006-12-03 04:54:31 · answer #6 · answered by MarineCorpsWife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if its taken him over 3 yrs. and him still not getting divorced i would put my foot down. i mean seriously 4yrs seperation. tell him that he needs to get the papers filed, soon, if he's scared to pay the child support then he should of thought about having 4 kids with his ex first. good luck girl.
2006-12-03 04:45:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why get invovlved with a married man. if he hasnt got a divorce yet then most likely they want its not a child support thing hes still think theres hope. now that you guys have kids youve put yourself in a pretty messed up situation. tell him how you feel, if he bruhes you off then move on.
2006-12-03 04:49:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 22:17:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, how old are the kids he got with his wife. if they are small, than he should wait some time, if they are teens than he should file the papers now.
2006-12-03 04:54:37 · answer #10 · answered by ... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋