If I meet a guy who mentions in his personals ad that he wants to be friends first, and I choose to meet him and if things work out, well, I guess be friends with him. He seems very busy with his education although he is close to 50, so I wonder how much time he has to put into a relationship and in my case I am interested in marrying again and really don't want to just drag along waiting for him to persue all his dreams. I wouldn't mind dating him but since he probably isn't going on the same timetable as I am, I want to continue to meet other guys and continue searching for mr. right. Since he wants to start out as friends, there isn'lt anything wrong with me meeting other guys right? Because you can have as many friends as you want and if we arent' committed to each other, he shouldn't mind should he? I haven't even met him yet but I just like to plan things out ahead of time if things did work out.
2006-12-03 04:39:36 · 10 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just don't want to waste time with someone who isn't looking for the same thing but at the same time I want to be open to getting to know a person just in case there is something there but if we are just going to start out as friends, I want to keep my options open.
2006-12-03 04:40:44 · update #1
You haven't met him yet. Your reasoning sounds fine. If he doesn't want the same things as you then you need to look elsewhere, but don't keep him in the dark. He could be saying all that out of fear of rejection. So if he knows that he is your friend, and you are dating other guys. He will either 1. Stay your friend or 2. buck up and start a meaningful relationship
2006-12-03 04:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by melly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're putting the cart before the horse. I mean, it's crazy to think of marrying someone you don't know well and aren't good friends with. So of course, if you like this guy, then take the time to get to know him, while still dating other guys. If the relationship heats up (if it ever does), then you both will be seeing more of each other and less of other people, and the progression to an exclusive relationship will be natural--and from there to committment and marriage a shorter step. But first comes being friends.
2006-12-05 08:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by AnOrdinaryGuy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure of course you can be friends but please be up front with him in the beginning that you are also seeing other people. Then you will have absolutely no guilt when you are seeing other people and you will have nothing to hide and you will not worry like this and you will have a clear conscience. From the way his profile sounds and how busy he is he should not have a problem with you seeing others. Good luck and have fun!
2006-12-03 12:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by Olivia_Raye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's okay to continue to look. Just be open about it. The worse thing would be that you find out that this guy is the one and that's when he finds out you have been seeing other people.
2006-12-03 13:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by bosco6159 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really like him, try talking about it. Find out what his goals are in life, and how high up marrige is on that list, and if you feel you guys are on different levels, find someone that has the same life plan as you. Good luck.
2006-12-03 12:44:19 · answer #5 · answered by Sublimebaby69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong with seeing other people and seeing him too. I just would be honest with everyone involved and let them know there is no commitment on your part.
2006-12-03 12:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No commitment = No obligation
2006-12-03 12:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by reeses30135 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't settle for anything less than what you most want.
2006-12-03 12:41:53 · answer #8 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeaaaaaaaaaa
2006-12-03 12:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by esz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you a gnome?
2006-12-03 12:43:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋