i mean ever since i remember myself ive been fancied by lots of boyz but i always rejected them coz i was afraid of gettingcloser and the first kiss. im already 16 and i avnt expirience that feeling. i feel so .........anyway. itz not the problem that i cant find a boyfriend but itz after that. everytime when we get to that first time kiss i break up with him cz im scare wot hell think when he understands that i cant kiss. i rele want to do it but then i dont. i just hate myself for the fact i didnt do it when i was younger and now im 16 . oh god i feel very stupid
2006-12-03 04:36:23 · 18 answers · asked by vamy189 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't feel stupid that you have never kissed before. I think it is great that you haven't kissed anyone yet. I don't know that I would keep breaking up with guys over it but you may want to come out and say that you aren't interested in kissing yet but you could tell them if you were at some point interested in that. Don't keep breaking up with people just because you are scared just let them know you aren't ready for that. Now with that being said I wouldn't let them know that you have never kissed before cause then they may become obsessed with trying to be the first to kiss you but I see nothing wrong with telling them up front that you aren't with them for that reason and you will let them know if and when you are ready to kiss. Good luck and don't feel bad about it.
2006-12-03 04:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well hell! You're only 16! so there is no mad rush, in a few years you'll wonder what you were worrying about, I'm 25 and I'm single and wondering why but sh*t that's life. Still it's worth getting to the bottom of that problem, abuse in the past of some kind? A tough time at school? - I had a sh*t time when I was at school: almost killed myself but am still here......See a counsellor perhaps, confide in someone u can trust who can keep a secret.
2006-12-03 12:42:22 · answer #2 · answered by Dan 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK. Sounds like you're kinda trapped in a vicious circle. The more you don't kiss, the more daunting it seems. The more daunting it seems....
You need to relax. There is no 'right' way to kiss. People may have preferences but, like as not, when you do kiss he will have NO idea it's your first.
And nervous? We're all nervous first time. I think one day it'll just be the right time and it'll go fine. Just don't wait until you're 23 like me. Though I have tried hard to catch up since then!
2006-12-03 12:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by Nobody 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Instead of feeling like "you hate yourself", you should be proud of yourself. Obviously you value yourself as a person, that is a very good thing. It's also something too many young women don't.
There's no reason for you do to anything you aren't comfortable with. When you are "ready", you will know it. There's nothing to feel "stupid" about!
The fact that it matters to you and that you aren't just "giving" it away will make it that much more "special" when it finally happens.
Be proud of yourself, you have years ahead of you, when you're ready you'll know! Best of luck.
2006-12-03 12:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those boys you rejected must have fancied you back, and were probably confused when they were rejected. You shouldn't be in a rush, but you know, when you really like someone you will both right, and don't feel embarrassed. Its all part of growing up.
2006-12-03 12:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by "*♥*Nafisa*♥*" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget what your friends say or tell you, those who claim to have lost their virginity. your first kiss is one of the most precious memories you'll ever have. 16 your a child going on young woman. you have a hell of a lot of years ahead of you. in kissing terms thats about 100,000 plus. i have about 40-50 kisses a day from my fiancee. i dont count any of them really. each one is special, but none so special as our first with each other. try it once. you might like it.
2006-12-03 12:59:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey don't feel so pressurised to kiss them
my 1st kiss was with my boyfriend when i was 15 (after a whole bloody month)
he's been with me now for 3 years 7 months (me 19 now)
WHEN YOU FEEL UR TIME IS RIGHT THEN IT WILL BE NICE =)
bcoz i remember my ex dumped me bcoz i wouldn't kiss him at all? that was when i was 14 ~ lmao
good luck to you hun, hope you find someone who will make u comfortable enough to kiss them.
it's weird at 1st but once u get use to it, develop ur own style then ur all set =D
MWAH x
take it slow, dnt rush ;)
2006-12-03 12:40:59 · answer #7 · answered by kimee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Couldnt you explain the problem to the boy and ask him to help you get over it? Boys are usually scared of girls so he'd probably be pleased you had a problem too.
2006-12-03 13:16:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously you haven't met the right person yet. if you find someone who makes you feel relaxed and happy then it will just happen with no pressure at all. you'll be glad you waited. have fun.
2006-12-03 12:40:44 · answer #9 · answered by magicalle 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you really care about the guy and he really cares about you, it wont matter if you cant kiss. if he really likes you he'll probably be glad hes your first kiss and will love to teach you.
2006-12-03 12:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by Ash 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋