Been seeing a girl from the USA for 9months now,we met while she was studying here (london) but she's gone home now and im lost without her. But now she says she wants to end it because its too hard but says she still misses me and loves me!really think she is my soulmate..Is there anyway to get her back?Or is there some other reason. behind this she isn't telling me?Should i just give up and move on?
2006-12-03 04:32:05 · 4 answers · asked by joey p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Long distance relationships are very draining and unless they are for a temporary and FINITE amount of time they typically do not last no matter how much the people involved love each other. LDR's are very very difficult because you don't get that physical support from the other person. You can never kiss each other, hold each other, and the closest you can get is talking on the phone and a lot of times that is so woefully insufficient. It is very difficult to keep strong feelings for a person you never see. The committment necessary for an LDR to be successful is also extremely high, you will be giving up your weekend nights to stay on the internet or on the phone, for example. You will be spending so much time on the internet and the phone you have no idea; that is often really hard for most people. If you are really serious about her you better start thinking about how you are going to move to the USA (or her to London) or else I would just let it go. Believe me I know how hard it is going to be to do it but it is best to end the suffering now. I know that this advice is really hard to hear. You can still stay friends, you know, keep in touch & chat on the internet, maybe life will swing you guys back together again and then you can start something up again since you are ending it on good terms. But for now... especially since you're both so young, I'd try to just keep a friendship and move on. Good luck.
2006-12-03 04:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia_Raye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're lonely so she probably is to. I wouldn't blame either of you if you hooked up with anyone else between the two months. It's hard to have long distance relationships especially that far apart. The only way it will work is if one of you moves near the other one.
2006-12-03 12:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by tia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try to save up some money to go see her and then when you tell her this see what her reaction is. is she ahppy or not. if shes not happy about it then theres probably another problem.
2006-12-03 12:35:38 · answer #3 · answered by gamerx66x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-03 12:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by c g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋