How do i find a kind man who wont laugh at me after he meets me because i am not smart enough for him..Or maybe i dont make enough money for him to be happy with..I have nothing to give a man..I can have children..Is there anything wrong with that..I think i have been reduced to arranged marriages ..this is how desperate i have become because i want a husband and children..How can i arrange myself to be married when i am an Australian..Any suggestions...
2006-12-03 04:30:13 · 14 answers · asked by Danielle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The fact that you feel that you have nothing to offer a man is your problem, not that you aren't smart enough.
You need to get your esteem & confidence built before you can be of use to anyone.....especially yourself. If you need a personality, then get one. Learn to carry on a good conversation.
Get your body healthy, and this doesn't mean anorexic. Make sure you get a good haircut & able to apply a bit of makeup properly.
If you need a better job, check into classes or training to better yourself.
The desperation you feel oozes from you and men can smell it a mile away. No man wants a clinging vine. Until you are happy with yourself, no one will be happy with you either. You may need some counselling. There are many good free or inexpensive agencies in your town. Call one.
2006-12-03 04:38:35 · answer #1 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a world of Billions there is that type of person out there for everyone. I would first suggest trying to talk to a counselor about helping you find all the wonderful qualities you have to offer that you are overlooking within yourself. Then I would suggest you getting out more, try hanging out at a coffee shop each week or a bookstore, learn to meet new people guys/gal. Do things that broaden your life as it is and makes you feel better about yourself. Most people will find their Loves through networking friends, or even online dating....or matchmaker programs. But first things first....Fall in love with YOU for a change...and then you will realize before you know it someone else out there will see that Beaming light within you... Positive attracts Positive...so start creating it....
2006-12-03 13:17:24 · answer #2 · answered by Aphrodite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, my you really have some self-confidence issues... who or what made you this way......
Look there's a man out there for everyone... You have to be positive and know that if you are looking then you aren't going to find it... When you least expect it then that's when you get what you are looking for... God has our life planned out before we are even born...
Men want a woman that will love them for there faults also, just cause you don't make a lot of money and aren't as smart as they are means nothing..... You are unique in your own way... Don't let something little and petty as that ruin your life....
There's always schools to help you get to were you want to need to be there's always firms that help you locate they job that's right for you... Trust and believe that it will get better!
Hope this helps...
2006-12-03 13:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by danxtsupamodel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Place your priorities somewhere else. Your job, your hobbies and your friends. It sounds like you are obsessed with getting married-bad reason to get married. Marriage is a life-long commitment for 2 people to walk into open-eyed and maturely, not just something to do.
Seek counselling for this now so you won't make a huge mistake. You are not desperate! Your time will come and you will be glad you waited.
2006-12-03 12:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your lonely. But please don't want to rush into marriage. At least right now, you don't have to put up with a man cheating on you, lieing to you, beating you, not careing for you.
So many things!
IF you feel arranged marriage is for you, then do it.
Do you know if there are arranged marriages for older people who can't have any more children? If so, I'd be interested! Email me: hogsnotbubbles@yahoo.com
2006-12-03 12:36:16 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If these are your reasons for marriage and having a family then you're definitely starting on the wrong foot.
Wait until you are emotionally stable.
Marriage and family will not cure loneliness.
And strive to be financially stable as well. Why? Because its the basic if you're having children. You don't want your children to suffer because you have funds.
2006-12-03 12:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by Rey Arson II 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need more self confidence. All you think you can offer a man is children? Yikes.
Spend more time on having fun instead of focusing every bit of your energy on wanting a husband and children. When you take your mind off it, that's probably when you'll meet someone.
2006-12-03 12:42:43 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful what you wish for, some men don't work and abuse women and/or drugs. So, try to make friends and find someone who shares some of your ideas. Don't be too much in a rush, it's hard to raise kids and expensive, some of the men of today don't stay and take care of you or children.
2006-12-03 12:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by us5we2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man really likes you,he will be willing to help you in you darkest hour with any problems you may have.I am certain that you are pretty and have a great personality.That should be enough other than being honest with him and yourself! Good luck!
2006-12-03 12:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some Oz guy is going to be very lucky when they meet you. You appear to be sensitive and caring even though you work in the caring profession. You lack self confidence, but witha loving felow this can be overcome and you can be the woman you want to be.
2006-12-03 12:36:39 · answer #10 · answered by d1ckdeckard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋