I am 23 years old with 2 kids. I have no one else in my life but my kids and my family...no man or anything. well, i feel like there is a void in my life that only a man can fill. I had decided to take some time to myself, but I'm so lonely!! This is the longest I have been single, whether it be a boyfriend or just sexual partner, in 7 years, and it's only been 4 months!! What can I do to get over this? I'm getting really depressed too.
2006-12-03 04:27:47 · 13 answers · asked by red.cherry2001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've allowed yourself to become too dependent on a man to "make" your life happy and complete...BIG MISTAKE (and this goes for guys that do it too). No one can make you happy but you...you are a 100% complete and whole person...sure it's kewl to have someone to share life with, but you aren't incomplete without a partner...
Learn to love yourself and your life...make your life what you want it to be...when you are happy with that and busy living it and taking care of your kids, you'll look up one day and someone will be looking back at you...THAT is when you'll be ready to be a good partner...
Right now, you'd be expecting someone to complete you/your life...that's unfair and doesn't show any caring for that person, but does put a huge burden on them...
Four months is nothing...take this single time to learn who you are and what you want out of life...my best personal growth has come in between relationships...when I was on my own...
Good luck.
2006-12-03 04:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 33 with a teenage kid. Never been married and I get lonely. Find some clubs to join or join a singles group at your church. You'll find out your not the only one feeling like this, and you will make friends. Which is the most important factor in any relationship. Your prince charming might not come along as fast as you want, but with kids around you need to think of them. Kids that get attached to a boyfriend of yours will have a tough time if things don't work out.
2006-12-03 12:35:45 · answer #2 · answered by melly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. When my ex and I split up 6 years ago after a 91/2 yr. relationship I felt like I was about to jump off a ledge ! The thing that helped me was to find productive and positive things or people to occupy my time with. Although I have no children and I am married now, I have to admit - I pat myself on the back for staying single and working on myself (physically, spiritually and emotionally) for a year. You can always do the obvious - surround yourself with friends (non - couples), find yourself a babysitter and go to the movies (on a Sunday night - cause the couples are always at the theater on Fridays - Sundays), you can volunteer some nights at a shelter or hospital (it teaches you the value of life), you can start reading (I did this and fell in love with many black authors) etc. etc. etc. Be creative and make time for yourself, sitting at home wondering what could have should have and would have been is a waste of effort and time. Good Luck, God Bless !
2006-12-03 12:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by Sasha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay busy with your children--it is too soon to get involved with another man. Yes, you are lonely-I have been there--I understand--but getting involved too soon can not only hurt you--it can and will confuse your children. Be strong on your own two feet now for you and your children--you don't need a man to take care of you at this time.
2006-12-03 12:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it the need 4 sex or just companionship, or is it that you want a life mate? u decided to take some time 4 yourself, but if u are feeling lonely then that time is over. jump back in to the dating pool!
2006-12-03 12:31:11 · answer #5 · answered by frostytink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a friend that you have can introduce you to someone that deserves your love. If you decide to use a dating service be careful as there are many people on those sites that have other interests. For now focus on your kids...in time your prince will come ;)
2006-12-03 12:32:58 · answer #6 · answered by Λиδѓεy™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is get yourself out to meet people.
You do not mention how old the kids are, but could someone baby sit while you go out?
2006-12-03 12:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself out into the dating world and find someone to love and be with you.
2006-12-03 12:29:59 · answer #8 · answered by The_Morbid_One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get Out and Shine who you are! Go out with some friends to parties and get noticed.
2006-12-03 12:33:48 · answer #9 · answered by Quizgrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm 21 and feel lonely too. its part of life. it will gte better for both of us
2006-12-03 12:38:36 · answer #10 · answered by DA-LL /Male/ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋