I am in a long distance relationship, and my GF is very pretty and likes to party. A lot of guys hit on her, everyday. I am working and she is still in college.
She hasn't cheated on me, but she does lie to me a lot.
I have a lot of restrictions on her, i dont let her wear skimpy clothe, i dont like her drinking with guys. I don't even like her talking to guys.
is that too extreme?
2006-12-03 04:26:08 · 18 answers · asked by NYTrader55 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Definitely not, especially if she has lied to you many times before. There is nothing wrong with you not wanting her to wear skimpy clothes or drink with other guys!! In fact, if she was committed enough to you, she wouldn't do those things anyway, without you having to tell her. It is perfectly understandable if you don't want her even talking to other guys, esp. if she is really pretty, and like you said, lies to you. Long distance relationships are kinda tricky... anything can happen and the other one can never know. It's good to be cautious, but if she isn't willing to do stop these things to ease your mind, then she isn't committed enough to you, and its time to let it go. Have you talked to her about this? Does she think youre being too hard?
2006-12-03 04:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way, yes it is. If you feel the need to put her on restriction, then there are some serious trust issues here and you may want to think the relationship over. You are not her parent and therefore cannot tell her what to wear. She is an adult. Honestly, I think you need to find someone that you can trust and not try to be so controlling.
2006-12-03 04:30:20 · answer #2 · answered by parrothead2371 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means it's extreme!
Not even a husband has the right to have restrictions on their wives.
Restrictions are great for married couples or just gf/bf agree upon, but if the agreement isn't agreed on, that give you no rights to be a control freak.
Control freaks first need to learn how to control themselves, before they feel their big enough to control others.
I feel sorry for your gf. I hope she smartens up and dumps your a**.
2006-12-03 04:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's obvious that you want this girl for yourself and nobody else. She's in college? well she might be partying with some other guys. But lay down the laws niceley. Just tell her that you're not comfortable with her talking to other boys. But all in all, You need to let her have some freedom. You need to let her live her life the way she wants. Without freedom from both of you, you're in trouble.
2006-12-03 04:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by Quizgrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course its too strict how would u like someone telling u what to do .... its like putting a dog on a lead and keeping it in the house .... she has a life to live as-well and she should be able to live it as she likes if u keep going on like this the relationship wont last much longer ... and PS : she prob is doing everything Ur telling her not to ... u cant controll her if u want something to controll by a blow up doll ..
2006-12-03 04:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by connor s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes a bit you cant tell her she can or cannot talk to theres nothing wrong with talking to someone geez have some trust. but the wearing skimpy clothes and not drinking with guys are ok. why dont you talk to her about her lying tell her she doenst neeed to lie to you or wutever you want.
2006-12-03 04:30:08 · answer #6 · answered by PrETty iN pUrPle* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you put too many restrictions on her you could cause her to cheat...Who cares what she wears, as long as she is not going out trying to pick up guys..If she is faithful to you then what are you worried about.
2006-12-03 04:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way too extreme. Listen, you say she lies a lot. Just maybe she's trying to weasel out of the restrictions you've (unfairly) placed on her.
This problem is self-solving. SHe's going to either get sick of your controlling nature or you're going to get sick of trying to control her.
You have the problem. If she's worth a damn, she's going to ditch you. If not, she's not worth having.
2006-12-03 04:30:51 · answer #8 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm are you her daddy? Its not your right to tell her what to do or who to do it with. And if shes lying to you about it then she isnt comfortable with your restrictions. Let go now and find someone that you mesh better with.... you will both be much happier.
2006-12-03 04:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by bobndew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. She has to communicate SOMEHOW. What's the 'not talking to guys' all about???? I understand you're afraid she might cheat on you but it would be better if you guys talked about your relationship and trusted eachother!
2006-12-03 04:30:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋