I need help.I'm almost 19,a mother of two girls,ages 4 and 3 and pregnant (in 7th month) with a girl.I'm not married and live alone with the kids(I had to leave home during my first pregnancy).The girls' fathers aren't able to help(one is unknown,other is in jail and the third is unknown again).I have problems with the children's discipline and I need a rest.I work from home and have decent money but I don't have friends,people who I can share the difficulties of being a single mother.I don't know how the other single parents get over the problems but I just cannot cope with everything.I have noone to leave the kids to and say "Look after them for a while,I need a rest".If anyone feels like me,you can write me and share some experience with being a single parent.My email is apokalipsisd@yahoo.com Please give any ideas of effective discipline for little children and ideas for restig while they are around?
2006-12-03 04:24:04 · 7 answers · asked by Jennifer C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
One effective way to discipline little children is to use the "mat" or "chair" principle. There was this "super nanny" named "Jo" who appeared on the "Oprah Winfrey Show" some time ago, and she visited several households in America whose parents were finding it impossible to discipline their small kids effectively.
The method that Jo used was to order the unruly kid(s) to sit on a colored mat for a number of minutes (depending on the age of the child: 5 years old = 5 minutes etc.) For instance, she would say, "Bobby, I want you to sit on this mat and think about what you have done to mommy until I call you to get up!". You have to order your child to to this in an authoritative tone, or else he/she will not take you seriously. The same works for the "chair principle", "Jenny, I want you to sit on this chair and think about what you have done to your baby sister. Sit there until I call you to get up!".
I don't know if these disciplinary techniques work for every child, but I think it's worth a try. But of course, when the child has completed this punishment, you'll need to explain to him/her about his/her wrongdoings in a gentle maternal manner, so as not to confuse the child as to let him/her think that he/she is a bad person, because they aren't... they're just kids.
Hope this helps.
2006-12-03 04:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by xander 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you need much more help then just a "rest" from parenting duties. No, I'm not going to lecture you on the consequences of your actions, but hopefully this is a wake-up call for you. You are taking the right step to ask for help, and there is a wealth of knowledge out there for you. If you prefer to use the internet, there are many sites that offer suggestions, just use keywords, "single parents", and I'm sure you will find something.
In my opinion though, I think you need to try to find help locally. You are desperately in need of a shoulder to cry on, someone who can be there with you. If you do not have family or friends to turn to, and I assume you have swallowed your pride and ASKED them for such, you may try asking at the local hospital, your doctor's office or clinic if they have anyone they could refer you to. I hope this helps.
2006-12-03 04:38:38 · answer #2 · answered by crash 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah, that could be the stunning Christian Purity, ideal? i'm a single mom. My ex divorced me when I have been given pregnant and he began an affair. yet I refused to end the marriage. If he needed out, he might could do it. So, as far as i'm worried, i do no longer choose forgiveness as i did no longer dedicate the sin. i think of objective to dedicate the sin desires to be examined whilst answering this question. (i could be incorrect...) yet I sometime will ask my son for forgiveness for failing to maintain his dad and mom mutually. That, i'm sorry for.
2016-10-17 15:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man you have been a busy lady, no wonder you are probebly so stressed out with all that's going on at one time. you have to learn to just breath and say to yourself this is my life and I have to deal with it. I have been a single parent for sometime and I 'm in my early 30's with 2 children they are older, but I know what it's like to be a single young parent. Hope things get better for you.
2006-12-03 04:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by sara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take ur shower at night while they r sleeping, use a cobination of spanking and time out when there older u can try physical dicipline(i.e. making them do sit ups for every misdeed)
Hope this helps and good luck!
2006-12-03 04:28:45 · answer #5 · answered by Dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you have to leave home,, where are your parents, do they help at all, have you tried to talk to them, i have 3 boys and a stay at home dad, it is hard no doubt about it,
2006-12-03 04:33:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont feel like that. I didn't sleep around and only have children by one man. Sucks to be you.
2006-12-03 04:33:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋