Being in a realationship, looking for a partner, falling in "love" , dating is simply point less and stupid for young people going to school, college, university since it just takes away thier focus from thier main prority (studying) . Those who do it are just looking for a way to escape thier responsibilities, noting that most relation ships of this age group does not last long and causes heart break and stress. I agree with this. What do you think?
2006-12-03 03:43:05 · 21 answers · asked by kitXcat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Falling and love and dating is all part of practicing being in a relationship and learning about yourself and how you interact with people close to you. If you don't learn it while you're young, no one will be patient to date you when you're 30 and 40. And then, my friend, you end up alone and you'll have plenty of time to read and study.
2006-12-03 03:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by Johnny Onomatopoeia 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a warped and sad outlook on life.
The reason we date is to gain experience. What do we like, what don't we like.
Refusing to be in any relationship until after college is not realistic. Few people can determine fate. Sometimes a relationship just happens.
If you shun all relationships, and then expect to meet, fall in love, get married and have kids, all conveniently at the age of 25, you are just being overly optimistic. Life is rarely that simple. In fact if you behaved in this manner you might actually lose Mr. Right, because when you finally meet him, you may be completely inexperienced at dating and sexually, and this may drive him away.
University is not just about getting a degree, it is about transforming from a child into an adult. Learning to live away from home, learning about life. For most people dating is an important part of that experience.
Quite honestly you could make the same facile argument about having friends, going to parties, listening to music, watching TV, eating nice food, drinking, using the Internet for recreation, playing video games etc. You could use the same silly 'logic' to suggest that a student should sleep, eat, attend classes, do all their assignments, and do nothing else until they have their degree. Well all work and no play will make for a dull and tedious person.
As another person said. If you don't take the time to learn these important relationship skills you will likely find yourself alone and with an awful lot of spare and lonely time on your hands. Once you've wasted your youth you can never get it back.
2006-12-03 12:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree most teen relationships don't last long...I totally disagree that they are a waste or an escape. Teens need to learn how to socialize...they need to learn about relationships and how guys and girls interact on a more romantic (not just friendship) level. I see no reason for them to wait until after high school (if they aren't going to college) or college to begin dating...
Most kids anyway are quite capable of dating and maintaining the same level of grades as they would if they didn't date...
As for relationships not lasting long, they don't necessarily do that when we are adults either so that's not a valid argument...they should last as long as the people are interested in being together...that goes for anyone...
2006-12-03 11:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you to a certain degree. Some people can swing a realtionship and school and come out with excellent marks. THe way that i see it is everyone deserves to have some excitment in the life and love too. Some times you just got to take a risk. Besides you could find your soul mate, and the realtionship could last a life time. but you won't know if you don't let loose a bit.
2006-12-03 11:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by natasha l 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Humm.... I agree to a degree. Yes, it's true, chances are that your not going to marry the person you date in high school. It's also true that these relationships don't last for very long. And yes, they usually don't end well. But who cares? If you are happy for that month or two that you are together does it really matter? Should that happiness be sacrificed because it might not end well?
2006-12-03 11:49:58 · answer #5 · answered by Happy Girl=) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is a lot happier when you have love in it. You could devote all your time to study, but you'll never get those years of your youth back again. There's no point in being rich with nobody to share it with, remember what happened to Scrooge. All work and no play, makes Jill a dull girl.
2006-12-03 11:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you total, but it depends on if the person is ready to be committed with another person, and still make there own life work out. But middle school kids and high school should not even worrie about **** like that they end up like me, a child so think smart!
2006-12-03 11:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by lil_mama69smokie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't agree, lots of couples that last long have been highschool sweethearts, and I do believe that there is a way to balance love and school.
2006-12-03 11:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by becca 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well I dont...I am 22 yrs old hold a 3.5 gpa and I have a boyfriend of 4 years..I am defenetley not looking for a way to escape responsabilities...you can't help who your heart falls for...it just happens..
2006-12-03 11:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No,i do not agree-somethings just need to happen-if you only study what will you learn and see of life...Couse studying isn't everything in this world...It's importent,yes...but it isn't everything...And btw my mom has met my dad in univercity and now they are happily maried for 22 years...
2006-12-03 11:49:24 · answer #10 · answered by white chocolate 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋