I NEED HELP!!!! i wanna get my dad and mom back together?

Question

i dont know how
im so sad :{{{ cry cry
please help they compete with eachother and thye fight when they see eachother its soo saad....
and im only 11

Answer 1

i never got to know my dad, because my mom and him split when i was only 1. just be happy that you know them both.
talk to them and tell them how much it hurts you to see them fight, and how much it hurts you to see them apart. all they want is for you to be happy, so let them know they arn't doing thier job.

also, you can remind them why they love each other, or some how bring them closer togther, like if you got really sick! thats not a good idea...though.

good luck!

Answer 2

please don't be sad... adults just sometimes reach a point where they need to take a break from each other. Do you have a brother or sister? sometimes you fight and you just wish you would not have to be around them... it is the same with grown ups. IT IS NEVER YOUR FAULT! Adults have a lot of things pulling on their nerves. Maybe you should just worry about you! Be strong and find positive things in this mess. Maybe you can be happy with one parent instead of miserable with both. They are the ones with the issues, don't make it yours. It hurts very much to see two people you both love in such a manner and that hurt is real, cry if it makes you feel better, but also stop crying and start planning your future. You just can't make something happen that other people control. Find someone you can trust and talk to that person all the time. Let your parents know that you are hurting and that the fighting is unbearable. They should do this when you are not around. Find things that bring you happiness!

Answer 3

Oh, sweetie. Life is not a Disney movie. You can't just make a plan and throw them back into each other's arms. You aren't responsible for your parents' happiness, and you can't really even try to do this without it being wrong. No body, not even their child, should interfere in the relationship between two adults. They just have to either work it out or be apart. I'm sorry it's hurting you. Sometimes in real life the "happy ending" isn't what you were looking for, it's just that people find a way to move on and become happy in a different situation. Talk to your mom and/or dad about how sad you feel. They need to make it their first priority to help YOU get through this.

Answer 4

Niki, it is not your fault in anyway and it is important that you understand this. Tell them that it bothers you about that they fight in front of you. There will be nothing you can do to get them back together. Just because they may not love each other does not mean they don't love you.

You can't help what your parents do, but you can try to look at it in a different way to help you feel better. Look at it as an adventure....it could be kinda cool to have two houses and 4 parents instead of 2. Imagine what x-mas and b-days could be like. Woo-hoo! Plus, do you know how many kids you go to school with that have parents that are divorced. Actually more than half!

But you do need to tell them their fighting is bothering you and say these exact words, " I need you all to stop fighting and I need you to stop because it upsets me too bad and it makes me cry", tell them that if they truly love you they will have to fight on their own time, not yours. I hope this helps, sweety! You are going to be fine.

Answer 5

I feel for you very much, but I have to tell you that there is nothing you can do to get your parents back together. The only way that could happen is if they decided to give it another go. From what you said about them always fighting whenever they see each other, it does not seem likely they will get back together.
They had reasons why they seperated, only reasons that they really understand. Someday you will understand better why these things happen. Just live your life the best you can and enjoy things that you like and try hard not to dwell on your parents getting back together.

Answer 6

Hi Niki.
My mom and dad separated when I was ten, but only when I was 16 had I learned that they really have separated. All the while, people around me made me believe that my mom and dad just worked in different places in the world. On special occasions, both were there for me, so I didn't really doubt during those years.

That was twenty years ago.

Now that I am a mother myself and have children, my heart goes out to you. It is painful to see your parents separting, especially when you know and believe that they should always be together.

But hey, you are still young, you still have a long way to go. Eventually you will learn that life is not everything like you want it, just like in this case. Sometimes, things happen that hurt us, but it may hurt us now, but it could make us better persons in the future.

Even if your parents are separated, keep loving both of them.

Answer 7

I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this at your age. It's a very difficult situation. Of course you'd like to have your parents together, it's understandable. I'm sure you must be feeling a little confused and are worried about the future.

Talk to your parents, explain how you feel. Maybe they can arrange for you to see a counsellor or something. It might help you deal with this.

Your parents love you, that will never change. Even if they don't get back together they will always be your parents. As difficult as it might be to hear, some people are not meant to live together. Living in a home with two people who argue constantly and are unhappy is not good for anyone.

Talk to your parents, they need to hear your concerns. I wish you well with this, good luck.

Answer 8

Oh my dear friend, how sorry I am that you are caught in the middle of a storm and all you want is to make it go away! Honey all you can do is pray that God will show them the way. Everything depends on why they are fighting and apart. I want to tell you that none of this is your fault. Its Mum and Dad who have to sort out their differences, just as you and a friend who disagree about something have to sort out your differences. When you pray, ask God to frustrate the plans of evil in their lives. Tell him all that you feel. My angel dont let this be your fight, its not. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do. I knowit hurts and it even hurts me to know you are so hurt by all this. It happens in a lot of famlies today. Silly things heap up until the lid blows off the heated cooking pot and there is mess everywhere! So it has happened to mom and dad. THey have to grow up and sort out their childish differences. It would be unwise to interfere, because they must both be spontaneous in how they feel towards one another.

My angel, I am praying for you all, and asking God to bring about a miracle. If it does not happen, God had a better plan. Just love both your parents and dont take sides. You dont have to. Promise me you wont. Dont let their fight be your fight. You will only get hurt.

Just remember Jesus loves you and even though you are going through darkwaters he wants you to know he is right by your side and he loves you, and he will take care of you, no matter what! He didnt cause this, thats what satan does best. The bible says he comes to rob us, kill us and destroy us, but GOd comes and he makes the beauty come out of the ashes. Beauty will be born out of the ash. You just trust Jesus to look after you and he will too.

I will pray for you as much as I can and that will be a lot! God bless you!

Answer 9

That's a tough task to accomplish especially if mom and dad only argue and never really talk nice to each other. It seems that they are irritated with each other and trying to work out their differences is almost impossible.

But there is hope yet! Maybe that is where you come in. Do both of your parents still pay lots of attention to you? Maybe you can act as the buffer and talk with both of them and ask what happens to you. Ask them together if they still want to be with you. Ask them separately if they still love each other.

I know you are young but you might be able to at least get them talking which is a step in the positive direction.

Good Luck!

Answer 10

Umm well its better if they werent together.. Because they wont get in fights and if they stop seeing each other they'll be happier. My parents arent together but they seem happier. The house is more quieter. And im 11 too. But they never really liked each other lol.

Its not your problem either. You shouldnt be worrying about your parent problems. I know your sad but your just going to have to get on with your life and stop worrying abouy ur parent life and spend more time on yours. Life is too short for that.

Answer 11

As a child of divorce, and a stepfather of 15 years I will offer this. The reasons your parents fight isn't because of you, and the reasons they will POSSIBLY stay together will not be because of you. The problems and solutions are theirs to figure out. And the best thing you can do to help is make sure to not take sides and love them both.