2006-12-03 03:25:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
work on yourself to accpet it, after all it was given to you for a reason. You too you can make your contribution to the world. everything is not physical. Seach for what's beautiful inside of you, when you'll have found, you'll start feeling better with your physical features
2006-12-03 03:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by DonGiovanni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't hate your ENTIRE body. You can start out by finding whatever small little things you do like or at least accept and focus on them. I mean, I don't care if it's as specific as one little fingernail or the color of your hair or the fact that you don't need glasses or your ears don't build up with an abundance of wax. There has to be something about your body that you can be thankful for. Start there and keep looking. When you have a number of things about yourself that you can feel good about, you may begin to like your body as a whole better (and then start treating it better and taking better care of it). That can lead to a better body that will be eaiser to love. Anyhow, if possible, forget the body and just love your SELF. Because your body is not your SELF. Your SELF is something inside.
2006-12-03 11:30:41 · answer #2 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard too see past our physical selves and recognize that what truly has value in this world is the person we are inside. For me, it came with age, as I got a little older (now 34) I recognized how fleeting looks can be. But it is what makes you unique and special that is what has true value.
It's hard to get that message when our media is so exclusively focused on the outer package. But it helps to remind yourself that our bodies and how they look can be very temporary (damages by disease, accidents, self-abuse, etc.), and that goes for everyone. Remeber that this applies to everyone, not just you, so it will always be of more value to be a better person inside.
Having someone love you will not make you love yourself. That comes from learning what makes you who you are. Are you a good mother, sister, daughter, friend, person? Are you kind? Do you have real feelings? Do you show empathy and compassion to others? Are you dependable? Are you smart? Are you educated? Are you a good employee? Do you have a sense of humor? Can you take a joke? Make a joke? Are you fun to be with? Do you know how to enjoy yourself? Relax? Are you a good cook? Can you sing? Do you have a special skill that makes you unique? I could go on and on...
You need to focus on the things as best you can. Start with a list, list your good qualites down on paper, and carry it with you tucked into your pocket or purse. Look at it when you start to feel your confidence slip.
Do not hang with people who make you feel bad about yourself. Sometimes, this can be your family, and if it is.. talk to them about how they are making you feel. If it is a boyfriend/girlfriend/friend etc., it may be time to move on. You can not afford to keep drinking their 'poison', because that is the effect they have on your mind. I imagine these people in little bottles marked with a poison label. imagine them kicking and screamind in there and how funny they would look. Then put them on your mental shelf, and don't take any poison from them.
Ultimately, self acceptance is a function of maturity, perspective, and time. If you feel so bad that you are thinking of doing yourself harm, you need to see a professional therapist who can help you by giving you more tools to change your current negative way of thinking.
I hope some of this helps,
All the best...
2006-12-03 11:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ket-Su Jhuzen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the greatest love of all - to love yourself, and so many of us have to spend many years working on accepting and believing in ourselves. I'm older now and have an overview of the many years I've hated my body! Why? Because I wasn't blessed with being perfect!!??
Well, I'm loving my body now - with all it's imperfection and blemishes. I've finally gotten to the point that I realize that every new day is a new start, full of wonder and magnificence.
I'm not going to waste one more day wishing I were someone or somewhere else. I love my life, my body and myself and I want to spend my time enjoying doing the things I love.
I just wish I could look you in the eyes and communicate to you that you are beautiful and full of potential. I wish I could help you realize that it is in you're power to be happy.
You have a choice - it is all in your mind - you can count your blessings, follow your heart and enjoy your life or, get stuck looking only at the negative and not in the positive. The choice is yours.
2006-12-03 12:10:55 · answer #4 · answered by mama T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God loves you, and you are precious to Him.
In the Beginning God created heavens and earth.
God gives you air to breathe and sunshine to enjoy.
God gives you water to drink and food to eat.
God gives you a wonderful body and sound mind, to live.
God loves you, and you are precious to Him.
Son of God died on the Cross to save us from condemnation.
Jesus’ love is boundless and everlasting.
We have the hope of Heaven through Jesus.
Life therefore has fantastic and glorious future!
(Digestion of above can even prevent depression and suicidal thoughts.)
2006-12-03 16:16:02 · answer #5 · answered by tmthyh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard but instead of focusing on your body try focusing on your personality.Focus on your talents and things you're good at.Are you a good listener,are you a good friend?Do you like to help others?It's what's on the inside that counts not the outside.I hope you learn to love yourself because if you don't it might make it hard for others to love you.I know because I've been there myself.Good luck to you.
2006-12-03 11:30:06 · answer #6 · answered by muklebat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look in the mirror everyday and tell yourself you are smart, look fantastic and everybody wants to be you. It will help, eventually you will believe it.
2006-12-03 11:34:11 · answer #7 · answered by FlyChicc420 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop obssessing about yourself. You seem to have too much time on your hands to think. Life is short, don't waste time, get out there and enjoy yourself while you're still young enough to do it.
2006-12-03 11:28:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
therapy helps or affirm everyday before you get out of bed and just before you get in bed that you have a good body and you love yourself, trust me it helps.
2006-12-03 11:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand in front of your mirror and find one new thing every day that you LIKE about your body and state it positively (i.e. "I like how my eyes have splashes of gold in them.") rather than focusing on the negative.
2006-12-03 11:34:45 · answer #10 · answered by J-Dawn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋