I been arguing with my boy friend who i known for almost 8 months about money or other stupid things.. and when we go out i get mad when he doesn't have enough money for certain things and he tells me before hand he doesn't have enough money but i tend to believe his lieing to me? how can i get over this and trust him? and make our relationship better? i got to school and work very little and have to pay my cell bills and other bills so every pay check is for bills. what can i do? help me? iam tired of arguing i just want to love him!!
2006-12-03 03:16:44 · 6 answers · asked by Vanessa D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
money is not a stupid thing
2006-12-03 03:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Arguing about money now is simply practise for when you're actually married.
If he doesn't have enough money to take you out all the time, come up with some things you can do without spending money. Say take a walk in the woods, or go to the beach together. Have a picnic. Go to the park. If you have a free zoo, do that. Just explain that you can do all of these things, and he can save some money for a special date that you both want. Like a concert, or movies, etc.
If he doesn't like the freebie idea, then he is lying about not having money and just wants you to pay. If that's the case, dump him. Being married to a cheapskate is miserable.
2006-12-03 03:24:29 · answer #2 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The major reason for break ups in couples is because of...you guessed it...money. That's the only thing my bf and I argue about, too. Here's my take on it: If he tells you he doesn't have enough money, believe him. Since you are also on a limited budget, find a way to do things that don't cost a lot of money, or start a piggy bank to save up for a special night out. Talk to him openly and honestly, and make it plain that you are not picking on him or accusing him of anything. Just show him the "piggy bank" (it could be a pretty jar, can, anything) and tell him you want to start a little fund for fun things. Then don't get so bent out of shape. Try to pool your resources and maybe, just maybe, things will be better. Try it, and good luck.
2006-12-03 03:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by blondee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, with no offence to you. You shouldn't expect your bf to pay for everything for you. His money is his, just as your money is yours. If you beleive he is lying to you about how much money he has it is likely because he feels you are taking advantage of him and not appreciating all the things he does purchase for you. Unfortunately in this situation if you are getting angry with him when he doesn't have the money or even says he doesn't, this makes you the guilty person, because his money is his to do what he wants with. You should be the one to change yourself to appreciate the things he has done and by doing this his feeling of being taken advantage of will slowly disappear and he will likely be more open to share more. The key is though to not "EXPECT" anything rather you need to "APPRECIATE" everything.
2006-12-03 03:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by erasictrenton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your BF. At these time you can see that you cannot depend on him financially how more in the future. You are financially unstable with him. How can you be happy with someone you argue with all the time. It is not a healthy relationship. Get out of it before it gets worst.
2006-12-03 03:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are being used. Find another boyfriend
2006-12-03 03:20:10 · answer #6 · answered by MeRmAiD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋